u/iced_coffee_24

Hi! 24(F) and just recently had a baby. Ive had cafe au lait spots all over my left leg, from my lower back all the way down to my ankle. They basically cover the whole back of my left leg and I’ve had it since birth. Only recently have I known about the possibility of NF1. I don’t think I have other symptoms (except short stature), but of course now that I have a baby I’m wondering if the chances of me having NF1 is high and just went undiagnosed? And should I bring it up to my doctor?

Hi! 24 (F), married for almost four years with a six month old son.

Ever since my husband and I began dating more than six years ago, I’ve always had what I thought were intense crushes. It bothered me a lot because I was in this long term committed relationship, but it felt like I was switching crushes every few months or years. Some were friends or colleagues, or fantasies about previous exes. Then, I looked into limerence and realized that there was an actual term for all this!

My husband and I have been doing through a rough patch lately especially after having a baby. A lot of it being that his irresponsibility and other immature traits are appearing even more so now and it’s affecting our marriage and family. A friend from childhood and I recently reconnected and I guess you can say I’ve been in limerence with him (he doesn’t know though). I always thought that these thoughts were appearing because they tend to be whenever I’m unhappy with my current relationship. Or maybe it’s because I’m so young and I’m starting to regret getting married at 20. Especially because my husband was and is my first everything.

Anyways, it’s my first time posting in this sub and I’m very new to this realization. So any insight will be helpful!

Hi! AIO that my husband didn’t plan anything for my birthday? For context, last Friday was my first birthday as a mom (I gave birth six months ago) and it was very special for me, especially after going through a lot with a difficult pregnancy & postpartum period. My husband and I have also been going through some issues lately because he’s been quite irresponsible and forgetful.

He knew it was my birthday and how special it was to me, especially since the night before, my best friend took me out to dinner and he picked me up! On my actual birthday, he didn’t greet me at midnight (which is something we usually do) or even post for me on social media (another thing he used to love to do). He just gave me a short “happy birthday” right before he went to work, and then he was out at work the whole day. So I was at home with the baby my whole bday. I wasn’t expecting anything extravagant, but just something that he planned that I didn’t ask for. When he got home, i was already upset and crying and expressed my feelings. So the next day, he made it up to me by printing out photos and writing me letters (which is sweet and nice)! But he only did this because he knew I was upset and as an apology. And this is a trend he tends to have, wherein he only makes an effort when I’m already sad and he’s trying to make it up to me. I just wish he took the initiative and made his own effort, because it isn’t just on my birthday but in general, I also take on most of the responsibilities of our family because he doesn’t make his own effort or take the lead. I’ve just been feeling like I carry a lot of the weight, so am i overreacting for this?