u/iiPhoenixAshes

Classic situation, she came crawling back to me on social media and I took the bait. First person that I’ve met to say that I shouldn’t be ashamed of a certain physical insecurity that I have. That, along many other special things, is why I was dumb and took the bait despite my friend’s advice.

I don’t know if I’m capable of dealing with the next time she’ll come back. One thing I do know though, is that I’ll be going to therapy for dealing with this. Im tired of this pain so fucking bad, and I’m a pilot so the faa will be on my ass for this. It’s either i abandon a future as a pilot that will make me hundreds of thousands of dollars bc of therapy, or I don’t go to therapy and not learn how to sort out these things.

We’ve been saying for a couple of months now and things were running very smoothly. She has already ghosted me once, and I wrongfully interpreted that as her leaving me because we weren’t serious then (and I have some past trauma as well). She has said to me that she does this from time to time and gets help from her therapist about it. She also takes depression meds as well. She got more and more distant until a couple of weeks ago when she hasn’t texted me at all.

What’s next? I’ve already read some stuff about this and the best thing that I can do is to focus on myself and what makes me happy. But is there anything I can do to help her feel better? Like sending a low stakes text message? Or does that make it worse?

Thanks