u/imgettingcheesefr1es

Just got out of a 1 year relationship and I am certain now that I never want to be in a relationship ever again. Before I started dating my ex I had been single for 5 years and those 5 years were the best and hardest times of my life. But they were mine. I grew so much, experienced life exactly how I wanted to on my terms and genuinely loved being on my own. As much as I liked my me time I still wanted to eventually find a relationship so I was intentionally dating during that time. I eventually started seriously dating someone who was pretty great but I was mourning my old life the entire time we were together. I missed my routine. i could no longer do the things that used to bring me so much joy because now there was someone else in my life I would have to consider. Their preferences, wants and needs became a part of my decision making process. After breaking up I am so happy to be back in my old routine. I don't think I want to give that up or have to adjust it for anyone ever again. I have some really great friends and family and am fulfilled with those relationships. For the first time in my life, I am pretty excited at the thought of spending my life without someone by my side.

Recently discovered that my boyfriend of 1 year used to hook up with one of his female friends. I believed him when he told me she was like a sister to him and no way his type and never was jealous of their friendship. i recently witnessed a moment between them that made me realize they absolutely slept together before and when I asked him he admitted that it was a short thing where they both realized it was a mistake but he refused to tell me more when I probed for further details. He had a year to tell me that she is an ex but he never did until I straight up questioned it. I feel like he should have told me before I met her and he's asking me to take a few days to think before I make a decision but to me the lies and omissions are unforgivable and I'm wondering what else he hasn't told me or has lied to me about. So am I overreacting by just sticking to being broken up or should I wait a few days and see if I can forgive him?