is this female frndship toxic or healthy?
I am a girl. I had a female best friend who did a lot of efforts in order to make me her friend. I got attached to her ( in a friendly way). She used to do things for me , took care of me. One day , a guy who used to be her male bestie fucked up , talked trash about her and i got to know about it all through a fake ID. It was me who told my female bestie regarding what he said. She cut off ties with him for a few months and then saw him somewhere and he cried for a second when he saw her. She melted and then started talking to him again. She asked me if she should do the friendship again and i said yes if you feel so. Then she started saying things like but if i do it again i will lose you and i don't want it and said she will not talk. Eventually i started hating on that guy. Afterwards i asked her to stop talking to him but she didn't refuse to do so. Even after seeing I'm so hurt and i was so attached that i used to cry a lot because that affected me ( when i was a person who never cried for any frnd).I am so mentally fucked up. I am not at peace. She keeps talking about him . I have become insecure now. I have an anxious attachment now. I told her everything and still seems like she doesn't care. She doesn't text me now , doesn't update me on what's going on in her life. Plus she has clearly said many times that if it hurts me I should leave because she can't tell what that male bestie did at her home because they trust him a lot. She's on my mind 24 7. Should I walk away or stay because she says i never understand things from her perspective. She says that she's compelled to talk to him. That guy wants her for intimacy and blocks her when he finds another girl and once that girl leaves, he comes back to her. Basically she's his timepass/ the last resort