u/issairam

What can i do and where can i go? Idk what else to do in downtown

I enjoy going to the club with a few girlfriends every few months. I’ve always loved going out on solo dates, just having some time doing my own thing.

I started dating, my now boyfriend, 6 months ago. I was very straightforward (still am) about me being the type of person that values individuality. I’m not the kind of person that goes out alone or goes out to the club with friends because i wanna attract a guy (GOD NO). I just really like having fun.

So on valentine’s day i went out to have dinner with a girl friend since my boyfriend had work and lives 2 hours away. During dinner, me and my friend thought about going to the club and have a few drinks. The last time we went to the club before that was october of last year.

My boyfriend is the type of boyfriend who wants updates, constant updates. He tells me to just have fun but his messages when i’m suppose to have fun says otherwise. So i messaged him about our plans to go to the club. He was a bit opposed to the idea ‘cause of guys. I told him that even when i didn’t have a boyfriend i never entertained a guy at the club, very much focused on my friends. Fast forward to when we were at the club. He kept messaging me and asking for updates with photos nonstop. Asking questions like “what are you gonna do if a guy offers to buy you a drink?” My honest answer is i’d say yes cause who says no to free drinks. But ofc i said “i would refuse and ignore”. I sent him an update photo of me and my friend, then he said “you look like the kind of girl a guy would come up to” which i don’t really care cause i’d just ignore the guy.

I looked miserable and just upset when i’m suppose to be dancing and having a good time. I was so focused on reassuring my boyfriend that i won’t let any guy talk to me. Fast forward to when i got home. I got on a phone call with my boyfriend. I told him that i didn’t have fun at all and that i felt like i couldn’t do anything i used to love doing anymore. He got sad and cried which honestly made me roll my eyes ‘cause why this dude crying. We didn’t talk about it since then