u/iwishsomebodylovedme

Hi, for reference I’m 17f, 5’1 and weigh 40kg. Not sure if I am underweight but im assuming I am. I have always been on the slimmer side and have struggled with eating all 3 meals consistently (I usually always skip breakfast and lunch sometimes although I try not to). I think because I grew up in poverty I didn’t really have the nutrition or whatever to gain proper weight cause a lot of the food at home is purely just junk food and absolute rubbish. I have always been insecure about my body cause I’m really skinny and yeah I might have a really slim waist but I’m also flat chested which just makes me feel really insecure compared to other girls who naturally have a bigger bust. I just find it so embarrassing when other girls would start guessing my size cause I feel unfeminine for being flat. I’m so skinny to the point where you can see my hip bone poking out and can even feel it and I don’t like that at all, I feel like I’d be pretty if I had a little more fat to me. Anyways, what are the best tips and tricks in gaining weight and would it also help with my hips and chest?

Hi, for reference I’m 17f, 5’1 and weigh 40kg. Not sure if I am underweight but im assuming I am. I have always been on the slimmer side and have struggled with eating all 3 meals consistently (I usually always skip breakfast and lunch sometimes although I try not to). I think because I grew up in poverty I didn’t really have the nutrition or whatever to gain proper weight cause a lot of the food at home is purely just junk food and absolute rubbish. I have always been insecure about my body cause I’m really skinny and yeah I might have a really slim waist but I’m also flat chested which just makes me feel really insecure compared to other girls who naturally have a bigger bust. I just find it so embarrassing when other girls would start guessing my size cause I feel unfeminine for being flat. I’m so skinny to the point where you can see my hip bone poking out and can even feel it and I don’t like that at all, I feel like I’d be pretty if I had a little more fat to me. Anyways, what are the best tips and tricks in gaining weight and would it also help with my hips and chest?

I feel so incredibly and undeniably stupid compared to the rest of my peers. For GCSEs I didn’t get the best grades, I did manage to get 4 As and I barely scraped passes on the rest of my GCSEs. However compared to everyone else in my sixth form, I feel so insanely stupid and dumb because they have all done so much more better than me in their GCSEs (I am talking grade 8s and 9s) and the thing is, is that the sixth form I attend is known to be quite academic. I am in year 12 and have my end of year mock exams coming up very soon, in about 2 weeks from now (these are really important as it’s needed to apply) and let’s just say I did not do as well in my first set of y12 mocks and definitely didn’t cry about my grade during school (nobody saw don’t worry otherwise I would have been extremely embarrassed and ashamed). I just feel like I don’t deserve to be in my sixth form and that I don’t belong there either because I’m not smart like everybody else and to be honest, me even getting accepted into that sixth form was already out of luck. I’m scared that im going to fail these end of year mocks and that I’m not gonna do as well as I want for my actual a levels and to be honest all I really want are all A’s, because I know A* is quite literally impossible and unachievable for me. I’m so stressed about it and I can’t stop thinking and worrying about it, it’s just so unfair because to be honest for one of my subjects my class is literally fallen behind the other class and we are like 3 lessons behind so you can imagine how bad that is. Plus, for that subject I am also doing absolutely terribly and I got the lowest grade for both of those classes and the thing is, is that for the other class they outperformed my class a lot better because to be honest they have better teachers. When I found out what grade I got I was fighting back tears and trying so hard not to try the entire lesson. I even went up to my teacher who basically dismissed my feelings and said that it’s normal to be getting that grade at the start of y12 but im the only one who got that low compared to everybody else (I was one mark away from the next grade). I just feel so alone and have nobody to talk to about this because I know they will tell me that everything will be fine and that just because other people in my year got 8s and 9s in their GCSES that doesn’t mean they will find alevels easy but I can’t help but think that I’m just not smart enough to even achieve A’s because I was already struggling at GCSES to atleast get 8s and I didn’t even end up getting higher than a 7. My maximum is the bare minimum for some people and it hurts me so much cause I wish I was that smart and didn’t struggle academically. For one of my other subjects I got surprisingly good however that was only because the grade boundaries were extremely low and even then I only managed to scrap a B when everyone else in my class got A’s and A*. Then I found out I was like 2 or 3 marks away from an A and I was devastated, and I know I should be happy but I just really wanted an A and seeing majority of my class getting it so easily whilst I tried my absolute hardest and yet only came out with a B sucks. Maybe I am too harsh on myself but I just don’t feel like I am good enough and that I’m worthy of doing a levels or even being in sixth form. Plus, a lot of my peers have private tutoring and online classes and courses they pay for because they are middle class however I can’t even do that and I’m limited to whatever is available in school such as my subject coursework and whatever there is in the library and I just feel like im so limited and that im falling behind in general. Because a lot of my friends are really smart too, I can’t help but compare myself and even to my cousins who are also smart it sucks because I just don’t have any value to myself at all because I’m not good at anything. I feel so useless and unworthy in general, to the point where I feel like I’ll never be able to actually succeed in life and actually go onto doing well in alevels and going to my dream university to study Law. I just don’t think or believe I’m good enough to even pursue Law. I feel ashamed and embarrassed whenever we have any formative tests or even mocks in general because I always do horrible in them, and seeing others easily being able to understand and outperforming others on a whole different level just hurts me and yeah I am glad and happy for them but now I’m just being reminded of how much I suck. Im literally known as the dumb friend who doesn’t know anything. What if I do so poorly in the end of year mocks to the point where I have to restart y12? I really don’t want to do that but I’m terrified I will have to because I’m just so dumb. What do I do about this? I tried speaking to my teachers but they just brushed me off and I honestly don’t feel comfortable speaking to my head of year.