u/jadavis1234

Just joined like 3 days ago. I was bored and wanted someone to chat with, so I figured I'd give it a try.

And honestly, it was pretty decent. Had a bunch of different conversations, some just small talk, some actually went pretty deep music, bands, hobbies, whatever.

You come across all kinds of people on there. I ended up having a couple of interesting conversations, which was nice.

Anyway, that's just my experience so far. Anyone else here using it on iPhone? What's your experience been like, and how long have you been using it?

Just joined like 3 days ago, was bored and needed to talk to someone so figured why not.

And honestly? It did the job. Had a bunch of different conversations, some just small talk, some actually went pretty deep, music, bands, hobbies, whatever.

You get all kinds of people on there. Pretty much guaranteed at least one convo that's worth your time.

Anyway that's just my experience so far. How's it been for everyone else? And how long have you actually been on it?

I’m 44F, married, and we have four kids. After pregnancy and breastfeeding, my weight has fluctuated a lot, and my body has changed in ways that are pretty hard to reverse with diet and exercise alone.

My husband and I recently paid off our last debt, and our household income is increasing significantly this year. We currently have about $425k invested and receive an additional $2,800/month from a military pension. We’re finally in a much stronger financial position than we've ever been before.

But I just don’t feel comfortable in my own body. So I’ve been seriously looking at procedures like a tummy tuck, facelift, and possibly some other cosmetic work. Depending on what I decide to do, the total cost could range anywhere from $35,000 to $90,000 for a mommy makeover.

My husband says he thinks I’m beautiful no matter what, and he doesn't think any of it is necessary. He also grew up with very little money, so spending that much on something that isn't a necessity makes him really squeamish. He says he wants to use his higher income to accelerate investing for a few years and eventually take a job that would allow him to be home more instead of travelling two weeks out of every month.

I totally get where he's coming from. But I also feel like I've spent literally decades putting everyone else’s needs first. The kids and house always need something, and there was always a more practical use for the money. Now that we're finally in a position where I could do something for myself, I don't love being told that my confidence and how I feel in my own skin should come after maximizing our investment accounts.

I don’t know what to do, like how do I navigate this? If you've had plastic surgery after kids, was it worth the cost? If you're the spouse who was hesitant, what helped you get comfortable with it?

I'm genuinely trying to figure out whether this is a reasonable thing to want at our stage of life or whether I've lost the plot.

I (29F) was invited to a friend's wedding last weekend. We aren't best friends, but we've known each other for years and have always gotten along.

The ceremony started at 3 PM. I arrived early and stayed through the photos, cocktail hour, and speeches. By around 8 PM, dinner still hadn't been served. Apparently there were issues with the catering company and everyone was just waiting around.

The problem is that I had arranged for a babysitter until 9 PM and couldn't afford to pay for extra hours. I told the bride's sister that I was sorry, but I needed to leave. She said she understood.

The next day, the bride texted me saying she was hurt that I left before dinner and that it looked rude since I stayed long enough for the free drinks but not the meal. I explained the babysitter situation, but she said I should have planned better or at least stayed another hour.

Now a few mutual friends are saying I should apologize because weddings are once-in-a-lifetime events. I feel bad that she was upset, but I also don't think I should have been expected to stay indefinitely because of a delay that wasn't my fault.

AITH?