u/jb_151222

Hi I need advice, my bf and I are in a fairly new relationship we’ve only been going out about 3 months now. Recently I noticed anytime anything about my past relationships is brought up he shuts down and gets very short/dry with me over text.

I have had one serious ex who was my first everything and was honest with him about that before we started dating. I have also kissed 2 girls in the past and he knew this from the beginning but hates that fact. His previous ex cheated on him with a girl so I understand where his insecurity with that comes from, but at the same time my past situations all happened before I even knew who he was.

I just confronted him and asked if I had done something wrong and he said no just that “I learn new little things about you sometimes that I wish I knew earlier and sometimes I wish I didn’t get as invested as I did so fast”. That statement obviously really hurt as I cannot change my past and I have been nothing but good and loyal to him since we got together.

What he said makes it seem like he regrets being with me even though he knew all of this before asking me to be his girlfriend. Is there a way to fix this rift in our relationship cause now it seems like he regrets being with me just because of people I’ve been with before him. What do I do?

Hi I need advice, my bf and I are in a fairly new relationship we’ve only been going out about 3 months now. Recently I noticed anytime anything about my past relationships is brought up he shuts down and gets very short/dry with me over text.

I have had one serious ex who was my first everything and was honest with him about that before we started dating. I have also kissed 2 girls in the past and he knew this from the beginning but hates that fact. His previous ex cheated on him with a girl so I understand where his insecurity with that comes from, but at the same time my past situations all happened before I even knew who he was.

I just confronted him and asked if I had done something wrong and he said no just that “I learn new little things about you sometimes that I wish I knew earlier and sometimes I wish I didn’t get as invested as I did so fast”. That statement obviously really hurt as I cannot change my past and I have been nothing but good and loyal to him since we got together.

What he said makes it seem like he regrets being with me even though he knew all of this before asking me to be his girlfriend. Is there a way to fix this rift in our relationship cause now it seems like he regrets being with me just because of people I’ve been with before him. What do I do?

Okay so the guy I’ve been going out with 25M for about 2 months just moved in with his ex… Situation is that before they broke up he sublet his apartment to 2 of his close friends who are in college are were going to have to move back home out of state for the summer. They work with him an he didn’t want them to have to quit their jobs so he said they could move into his 1bed/1bath apartment till July when they can move back into their dorms. He is now living on his ex gfs couch until July and I am very worried about it. They have been broken up for about 4 months and he broke up with her cause he stated he was not physically attracted to her anymore and that he only saw her as a friend so he was checked out of the relationship for months before officially ending it. Initially I believed it was a mutual decision because he said they ended things amicably and were still friendly with each other. Well the other day she apparently drove by his apt and saw me walking in… she immediately called their mutual friend crying and saying how upset she was he moved on so quickly. She admitted to her that she had planned on trying to get back together with him once he moved in with her. He told me that since then they have had a conversation about it and he made sure she knew there was no possibility of them getting back together as he is very invested in me and is still not interested in her in that way. Problem is they used to work together so they have the same friend group and hang out with this group quite often. I have been invited to go to the beach with this group in June and ofc the ex will be going as well. There have been a couple events with the friend group I have not been invited to because he said he wants to wait for her to move on as well as to not cause drama with her and make her upset. The dilemma is it could take months or even years for her to move on and find someone else and I feel like I will not be fully acceptable and able to be open about being his gf until then. They are going to a birthday event for her this weekend and his friend even joked that I could pretend to be his cousin so I could come so she wouldn’t be upset that his new girl was there…. I am worried that he is going to continue to prioritize her feelings over mine because he is now her roommate and does not want the situation to be uncomfortable. He has reassured me multiple times that he doesn’t believe she will try to make any moves on him and she stated that she was happy for him but I am not buying it… I really like him and he does treat me well but I am worried with her being a part of his close friends and him being so worried about hurting her feelings that he will in turn hurt mine instead by constantly prioritizing her feelings over mine and treating me like a secret. I am not particularly threatened by her as all of his friends and himself have stated that I am much more attractive but I do know what close proximity and familiarity can do to people and I don’t want to get hurt if they end up reconciling just because it’s convenient. Opinions?

Okay so the guy I’ve been going out with 25M for about 2 months just moved in with his ex 24F… Situation is that before they broke up he sublet his apartment to 2 of his close friends who are in college are were going to have to move back home out of state for the summer. They work with him an he didn’t want them to have to quit their jobs so he said they could move into his 1bed/1bath apartment till July when they can move back into their dorms. He is now living on his ex gfs couch until July and I am very worried about it. They have been broken up for about 4 months and he broke up with her cause he stated he was not physically attracted to her anymore and that he only saw her as a friend so he was checked out of the relationship for months before officially ending it. Initially I believed it was a mutual decision because he said they ended things amicably and were still friendly with each other. Well the other day she apparently drove by his apt and saw me walking in… she immediately called their mutual friend crying and saying how upset she was he moved on so quickly. She admitted to her that she had planned on trying to get back together with him once he moved in with her. He told me that since then they have had a conversation about it and he made sure she knew there was no possibility of them getting back together as he is very invested in me and is still not interested in her in that way. Problem is they used to work together so they have the same friend group and hang out with this group quite often. I have been invited to go to the beach with this group in June and ofc the ex will be going as well. There have been a couple events with the friend group I have not been invited to because he said he wants to wait for her to move on as well as to not cause drama with her and make her upset. The dilemma is it could take months or even years for her to move on and find someone else and I feel like I will not be fully acceptable and able to be open about being his gf until then. They are going to a birthday event for her this weekend and his friend even joked that I could pretend to be his cousin so I could come so she wouldn’t be upset that his new girl was there…. I am worried that he is going to continue to prioritize her feelings over mine because he is now her roommate and does not want the situation to be uncomfortable. He has reassured me multiple times that he doesn’t believe she will try to make any moves on him and she stated that she was happy for him but I am not buying it… I really like him and he does treat me well but I am worried with her being a part of his close friends and him being so worried about hurting her feelings that he will in turn hurt mine instead by constantly prioritizing her feelings over mine and treating me like a secret. I am not particularly threatened by her as all of his friends and himself have stated that I am much more attractive but I do know what close proximity and familiarity can do to people and I don’t want to get hurt if they end up reconciling just because it’s convenient. Opinions?