u/jdownc

I [31F] and my fiancé [30M] have been together for a year and a half, engaged for a few months. We met in person when he was living with his parents but shortly after he got a job and moved away. It more than a 10 hour drive to where he lives. Flying isn't always practical either due to flight times and he doesn't live close to a major airport. All this to say, we don't get to see each other in person that often.

He's on a break from work right now, and he's visiting me/his parents. I live an hour from his parents. Since coming home he has spent most of his time at his parents. My sister lives with me so he doesn't feel comfortable just hanging out at my house while I'm at work, he also has booked several appointments in his parents town while he's here. I would like him to come here most nights after work, but he feels like this is an unreasonable ask as he doesn't want to drive an hour. He says I can go there, but I am currently working and at a very stressful time at work. I feel unloved because he isn't making an effort to come see me so it feels like he doesn't even care.

He was here for a week in March and I spent almost the entire week at his parents house (I also had the week off of work), and drove back and forth several times. I have also spent every other work break going to visit him since we began dating.

Our relationship is very good other than the distance and we have plans to not be long distance after we get married.

So which one of us is being unreasonable?

TLDR: my long distance fiancé doesn't want to come visit me as much as I'd like him to