u/jesterjuggler

OK I’ll keep this short, promise.

I have a great 9 year old. She’s kind, she doesn’t exclude anyone, and she has friends!

Some weekends she has multiple play dates, going from one to the next to the next.

Some weekends she has none. She doesn’t get invited to many birthday parties (not sure if they’re even happening). Is it silly to think that’s bad? She has friends but she doesn’t really have a best friend, or even a ‘group’ yet really.

I don’t know what’s normal. It often feels like she is most of her friends’ second choice, but I’m not sure that’s right…I personally have so many issues about her socially. It’s not about me, but I suffer in silence.

Should she be chatting with friends all day and always wanting to hang out with a friend? I posted here because she’s an only and even tho I love our little family I feel guilty and if she’s not with a friend, she’s the only kid around obviously.

My awesome kid turned 9 recently and I’d say starting about a month or so before the birthday, there began what can only be described as a return to the why phase.

My kid questions everything and misses LITERALLY nothing. My spouse and I discuss things openly in our small house and now my kid asks for clarification and more information on anything they hear. Moreover, every topic (overheard or otherwise) ends in more questions (a more sophisticated why phase??)

To be clear, I love it. Sometimes the eavesdropping is annoying lol, but I don’t mind the thirst for knowledge whatsoever. Has anyone else experienced this? Is this typical for this age?