u/jigmest

So I’m a middled aged trans guy with meta phase 1 no vagina. I’m doing a staycation at a resort for a few days. I’ve been chatting with a guy on Grindr. He says he’s in an open relationship and that he’s HIV positive undetectable. I’m not on prep. He works at the same place I do but in a different department (verified with location on Grindr.

He’s my aged and seems on the up and up. He seems ok with only doing safe sex and bringing his own condoms (I’ll have back-ups). What can I do without a condom that’s safe? I don’t need a lecture on how I should be on prep, just some good sound advice on how to proceed.

So I’ve been chatting with a fellow on Grindr. He says he’s in an open relationship and engaged. He also says HIV positive but undetectable. I’m not on prep and rather have safe sex.

I’m hestitant to meet up with him because he’s such a nice guy and we seem very compatible but he’s in a relationship. So it seems like a loser situation for me. Any advice?

I’ve been talking with this guy on Grindr. We both work in the same building in my corporate workplace but not in the same department. He’s engaged and says he’s in an open relationship. He’s hiv positive but says his level is undetectable. I never trust anything anybody says on Grindr. He wanted to rail at work in a bathroom but I told him no. We text via app sporadically. This morning we traded videos. There’s a sex sling in the background of his bedroom.

I’m legally/medically transitioned with meta phase 1 surgery with vaginastemony. He’s into it. He’s okay with safe sex.

I unsure if I want to meet up or not. I’m a middle aged guy and looking for something permanent but the dating pool is almost 0. This morning he wanted me to come over to house. I’m always concerned about my safety. I’ve had a few guys over to my house before but it’s always gotten weird. It always seems to be married guys on the down low seeing me as a gateway drug.

The guys were ok but the vibe wasn’t. I’m attracted to trans women the most with guys being second and women being third place. I was thinking about meeting up at an hourly hotel near me. I can pay for it and enjoy the pool afterwards which is a nice treat in this heat.

He’s okay with my kinks. I’m just unsure where to take this especially with him being HIV positive and engaged. Any helpful advice?