30M4A Bi/Pan & Childfree
Hi all! 30 year old guy wanted to spend my limited free time I have forming new, honest connections. For friendship or more!
Genuinely. I've made some very special, platonic friendships in Ottawa's r4r sub.
Especially if you got a noob-friendly TTRPG group or play Marvel Rivals haha. Or can teach me how to take better selfies!
I'm going to share about me with bullet points in the hope of being as open-book as possible. But the TL;DR is: childfree, woke-ish and quirked-up divorced man is single and has been having fun dating new folks.
About Me:
• BI, I've been sexual with both genders but only have experience dating women romantically. Open to both! I behave like I'm closeted despite being "out" so men and NBs might need to be patient with me.
• ENM/Poly curious. I'm not looking for multiple partners exactly, but I think I'd fit in best as someone's "secondary" or non-nesting partner. I only have evenings and nights free so I'd feel selfish being someone's one and only.
• 99 percent divorced. Ended things well over a year ago, and paperwork has been pending for some time. I have more details to share on this privately, you're welcome to ask!
• Childfree by choice (vasectomy’d up). Having a traditional family is not a part of my future goals.
• Definitely on the Aro/Ace spectrum in some way. Happy to chat about that in DMs if curious.
• I'm not a high-earner. HS diploma max education. I do okay, have a car, treat my pets well, Costco membership, but cost of living gobbles my budget (went from 3 roommates to 2 for cleanliness and mental health reasons) so my expendable income basically limits me to 1 "eating out" date biweekly.
• Activity (bowling or escape room), Dinner, (I know some wicked spots), picnic at the park, or Movie dates!
• I grew up rural, so I got some of that in me, but I'm not big on mudding (too expensive) or hunting (I dont really enjoy firearms or hurting animals if I can help it).
• Homebody, usually gaming & watching Hasanabi streams or TV Shows. Reconnecting with reading sci-fi novels and drawing.
• Gentle, polite, noncompetitive, love pets. I have cats and reptiles.
• Acts of service = my love language. Let me help you with yard work!
• Handyman and creative. I'll help build a bookshelf or design a poster for your bake sale! Ask about my Pokemon fan art? Sometimes play music. Often listen to music. Love live concerts, big or small.
• Leftie politics, empathy first. Cannot be close with someone not on the same page as 1312, a Free Palestine, Homeless and addicts are human beings, etc. I don't handle "friendly debates" about people having a right to exist, or excersizing bodily autonomy well.
• Rarely drink, no drugs, quit smoking 4 years ago. Talented at pacing myself, happy to DD for the group.
• 420 friendly but physically it doesn’t agree with me so I usually pass unless its a sleepover.
• Currently dieting well, and incorporating more physical activity after an injury. I'll never be skinny, but currently I'm 220lbs and 5'11, which makes for a belly. I wear it well, I swear!
• I wear prescription glasses and custom orthotics. I am missing a front incisor tooth (left) that I broke during an anxiety attack (haven't had once since March).
• Working on being more open & myself. This has historically been a challenge for me, and "coming out of my shell" has been an adventure!
• Passionate about your interests? Yap away! Please. Because I definitely will and want things to be fair.
• I had a rough start to my life, and avoided my feelings about that for a long time. Now I don't, so lately Ive connected with people really well over both that and being a late-bloomer bi person.
If you've read all of that, and I haven't scared you off, please shoot me a DM!