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Anyone have any tickets they are selling just need one just moved here from NY would love to finally enjoy a Cubs Game!

Anyone free and down to grab a drink 23M just moved here. I want to go somewhere lively and meet some new friends.

Hey everyone I hope you all had a great weekend! I’m a 21 year old male and I just moved to the Loop and I really want to make friends. Women or Men!! I love playing pickleball, going on walks/runs, cooking, reading philosophy, bar hopping, and play darts or pool and going to cubs games.

If anyone is out there interested in getting a drink or something I’d absolutely love to meet new people.

Thank you!

Hey everyone, I’m 21 years old and I found an amazing apartment I was able to lease for an August 1 move in. The problem is I don’t really have any friends and I have been through a lot in my life these past years and I really wanted to finally move to Chicago and be in the city since I fell in love with it.

I keep seeing everywhere that the Loop is not worth living in and it’s always dead and no one is around is that true? I’m having second thoughts and am not sure if I made the wrong decision? I really want to enjoy every minute and meet new people make friends maybe even fall in love I just wanted to know if it’s a wrong move?

Thank you so much!

Edit: I’m about a 16 Minute walk from River North. I am by Washington/Wells CTA

I need some honest advice because I’m really confused about my feelings.

I’m 21 year old Male and recently started dating a girl. She’s genuinely wonderful. She’s kind, affectionate, emotionally mature, and has treated me incredibly well. We’ve gone on a couple of dates and they’ve honestly been some of the best dates I’ve ever had.

The issue is that dating has been more expensive than I expected, and at the same time I’m trying to save money, move into an apartment, and figure out my future.

What’s really bothering me is that I’ve noticed a pattern in myself. I often want someone badly when I can’t have them. I think about them constantly, get excited, pursue them, and then once things become real and they’re interested in me, some of the excitement fades and I start questioning everything.

Part of me really likes this girl and enjoys spending time with her. She recently told me she’s only talking to me, wants to continue seeing only me, dates with intention, and sees potential between us. We have had incredible chemistry and made out all night and really cuddled together by the lake.

But another part of me keeps thinking about being alone, getting my own apartment, focusing on myself, meeting new people, and having freedom. I don’t know if that’s because I’m not ready for a relationship, because I’m scared of commitment, because the chase is over, or because I’m overwhelmed by everything else going on in my life.

For context, I’ve gone through a lot of major life changes and loss over the last year, so I know my emotions haven’t exactly been stable.

My questions are:

1. How do you tell the difference between genuinely losing interest and simply losing the excitement of the chase?

2. Has anyone else had a pattern where they want someone badly until they finally get them?

3. Am I overthinking a good thing because of stress, life changes, and fear of commitment?

4. If you were in my position, would you keep dating her and see where it goes, or take a step back?

I don’t want to lead her on, hurt her, or make decisions for the wrong reasons. I genuinely care about her, which is why I’m trying to be honest with myself before I make any decisions.

Hey everyone,

I recently turned 21, and honestly this has been one of the hardest years of my life.

My mom passed away from cancer in March, and since then it’s felt like one thing after another. Between family emergencies, school, and everything else going on, I never really got to celebrate my birthday or have much of a social life. To be completely honest, I’ve struggled with making friends for most of my life and don’t really have anyone to talk to right now.

I just finished my first week of a new internship, and tomorrow (June 5) I want to spend the day and evening in Chicago and actually try to enjoy myself for once. I’d love to meet people, make friends, have some conversations, and maybe even meet women around my age. I’m not looking to get blackout drunk or anything crazy, just hoping to get out of my comfort zone and have a genuinely good night.

For reference, I’m a 21-year-old guy, and a student at DePaul.

Are there any bars, neighborhoods, events, social spots, or recommendations you’d suggest for someone going out alone and hoping to meet people? Any places that tend to be friendly and easy to strike up conversations?

I’d really appreciate any advice. Thanks everyone.

Anyone have experience living here? Is it worth it? I did a tour of the apartment looked very small don’t mind it so much but definitely looks very isolating and lonely? Is it in a good neighborhood I had a few issues happen when I was there so I was a bit nervous. Anyone think it’s worth 1195 a month?

Tomorrow is my 21st birthday and I’m trying to figure out the best place in Chicago to spend it. I really want a memorable brunch/cocktail experience for my first legal drink somewhere lively, social, and with a great atmosphere where I could potentially meet people and just enjoy the city for the day.

Right now I’m considering: • Gemini in Lincoln Park • Chalet in River North • Cafe Ba-Ba-Reeba! • maybe LH Rooftop or Cindy’s Rooftop

Would love somewhere with outdoor seating, good brunch food, cocktails, good music/energy, and just an overall special vibe.

A big reason this birthday matters to me is because my mom recently passed away from cancer in March. Our plan was always to get a drink together when I turned 21, so unfortunately I can’t do that with her anymore. But I still want to make the day meaningful and celebrate it for her like we talked about.

Also random question: if I turn 21 tomorrow but still only have my vertical ID for now, will most places still serve me if it’s technically my birthday?

Would really appreciate any recommendations from Chicago people for somewhere memorable.

I honestly need advice from people who’ve been in a similar position. I’m currently an upcoming sophomore at DePaul University in the Fall and I’ve been commuting this year which financially has been amazing since my tuition situation is pretty good right now. I only spend around $200 a month on trains/Ubers compared to dorming or getting an apartment. But the commute is an hour and then a 20 min brown line ride that scares me everyday. The issue is time too because I wake up at 7 am for an 11:20 class just to make it in time. But I know the cost is so cheap because my tuition and aid is being covered I’m so tor on what to do.

The problem is socially and mentally I honestly feel disconnected a lot. I’m 21 and I haven’t really found my people yet at DePaul. I go downtown and genuinely love the city environment and feel more alive there but commuting sometimes makes me feel isolated from everything socially especially at night or during events.

Now I’m trying to decide if it’s actually worth dorming for one year in Lincoln Park or getting a studio apartment somewhere in Chicago. Dorming would probably end up around $15k-$18k total with housing and meal plans. Apartments seem cool in theory but realistically they’re like $1500-$1900 a month plus food utilities furniture and usually 12 month leases which honestly scares me because I’d be fully alone and don’t really have roommates or close friends lined up.

Part of me feels like if I’m paying that much anyway maybe I should just transfer out of state or somewhere else entirely. Another part of me feels like maybe I just need to immerse myself more in Chicago and DePaul life before making a huge decision.

For people who were in a similar situation was dorming actually worth it socially and mentally? Was getting a studio apartment lonely? Or should I just keep commuting and save the money? Honestly looking for real advice because I feel very stuck right now and I need to know for housing this fall to make the right choices.

Hey everyone,

I’m currently a freshman at DePaul University and honestly I didn’t have the best first year socially. Most of my classes ended up being very individual/lecture-heavy, and I never really got the chance to meet many people or make friends.

For Fall quarter, I really want to put myself out there more and take classes that are more social, discussion-based, interactive, have group projects, or just naturally make it easier to get to know people.

Does anyone have any recommendations for: • intro classes • electives • fun/social classes • professors who really encourage discussion • classes where people actually talk to each other

Could be any subject honestly. I’m just trying to build a better experience for myself and meet some good people.

Thank you, I’d really appreciate any advice.