New girlfriend after 2 weeks
I (23f) was together with my baby’s father (22m) for three years. We broke up officially back in the end of March when I found out he had slept with his ex while we were trying to work things out. I left and moved back in with my family. A month ago, he came back begging me to forgive him and give him another chance and that he would change.
for some context: when i met him, we were attached to each other from the jump, and 2 weeks later he asked me to be his girlfriend. he was extremely controlling and insecure our entire relationship. he constantly started arguments, didn’t allow me to have male friends, go out without him, wear certain clothes, etc… things like that. He was extremely toxic, but at the same time could be extremely loving and caring like buying me flowers all the time, writing me handwritten love letters, spoiling me with gifts.
I decided to give him the chance, worst mistake of my life. not only did he do nothing to change, but he didn’t put in any effort, and then randomly 2 weeks later after begging for me, he told me he didn’t want to do this and couldn’t be in a relationship right now. All my healing from the last 2 months went out the window and I lost it and begged him to please try, that I would wait for him, all that bs. He said he didn’t see a future with me and that rekindling our spark was like starting a fire in the snow. I was so blindsided because how do you just overnight decide you don’t love me anymore after begging me to take you back? He told me he couldn’t be in a relationship right now, his mind is in the gutter and he needs to work on himself.
Imagine my surprise when I found out that he has now asked another girl to be his girlfriend, TWO weeks later. He met a girl 2 weeks ago, and now has made it official with her with a huge bouquet of flowers that said “Life isn’t life without you.”
I am so distraught by this. Two weeks ago, he told me he couldn’t be in a relationship after begging for me and wanting our family back together, and wanting to marry me. And now just like that, he has thrown away not only me, but our entire relationship, our literal family, everything, for a new girl. None of it makes sense and my brain cannot understand this. My feelings are like just frozen right now, because I can’t process it or i don’t know what to feel. I gave him everything, he literally held my hand as I birthed his daughter, we had it all. And just like that he left me and moved on to someone he just met in 2 weeks. None of it make sense, and it feels like our relationship was never real. My mind is spiraling realizing that I don’t think he ever loved me, that our entire relationship was only real to me.