u/justyaaveragechlo

I am struggling so much right now. My husband has 3 children from his previous marriage (13, 11, and 5) and we have a 12 week old together. His three children are here currently for the summer, however, we are in the process of getting residential custody of them due to severe neglect on their mom’s part. We live several states away from them/the mom (they moved when the two of them divorced)

I was all for them being here. I’ve helped my husband so much with court/legal things, documenting, contacting lawyers, etc. We’ve known they needed help for a long time. However, now that they’re here, I am miserable. 2/3 of them are so badly behaved. I understand it, since they are so badly neglected and their lives have been very difficult, but understanding where the problem comes from does not make this less difficult on me.

I am reaching a point of burnout mostly every day to the point where I just take my son and hide in my room because I can’t deal with the behavior issues anymore. It is making me lose empathy for them and lose my damn mind. I don’t want them here anymore. It’s gotten to the point where it feels like there’s intruders in my house.

My husband knows how I feel and even though of course he loves them very much, he is also very burnt out by their behavior and understands how I feel (for the most part). I really don’t know what to do at this point because we’re obviously not going to send them back to a neglectful environment but we are both miserable at this point.

Hoping to get no negative comments cause I really don’t have the mental bandwidth for more negativity please. Just need advice and praying that someone else can relate.

My baby is 12 weeks old. Prior to a couple weeks ago, I was EBF on top of needing to pump 2-3x daily, each pump session getting about 10-12oz of milk. We’d usually give him a bottle or two of pumped milk a day when dad wanted to feed him or I was at the store or something, so I was usually storing about 20oz of milk in the freezer daily.

The past couple weeks, I’ve noticed my supply slowly dipping and only needing to pump twice a day, then once a day, then once every other day, then not needing to pump at all, now I just feel empty constantly and baby seems hungry all the time. Still getting wet diapers so I guess he’s still eating, but I’m extremely concerned. He’s my third baby, my other two I fed for 16.5 months and 9 months with no issues. I’ve never dealt with a supply tank before.

We’re in GA and we have the DPH home nurse coming over to see us biweekly still. She said to drink body armors and add a pumping session each day, but every time I pump now my baby seems so hungry the entire day like my body just can’t catch up even if we give him a bottle to give my body some time to produce more.

I’m so stressed about this, he’s not had formula and I do not want to start him on formula, so please, if y’all have any tricks I’d love to hear them

The wool balls are nooooooot cutting it and my hubby is getting annoyed by all the static. Help!!!

My LO is 11 weeks old and it’s already getting difficult to do the angel fold (our main fold) on him in the size smalls (yellow). He’s about 13lbs. Trying to figure out if that’s normal or if I’m shrinking them badly with my routine.

Literally every time I look up a type of product I need, Attitude comes through with several products that are EWG verified

I’m currently 7 weeks postpartum and ever since I got pregnant I started having ***horrible*** BO under my arms. I mean, it is just disgusting. I think a lot of it came from heavy stress in my pregnancy but my stress has subsided a good amount it is still horrendous. It happens maybe like an hour after I shower. I feel like I’ve tried everything and at this point I’m getting so depressed. My biggest reason for being nontox as best as I can is I want to have more kids and don’t want my hormones/reproductive system to get messed up, so the thought of just giving up and going to mainstream deodorant makes me cry, but I am so desperate for this to stop. Nothing has worked so far. I’ve posted about this in here before but I just don’t even know what to do anymore.

Third time mom but first time using cloth, LO is 7 weeks old. We’ve used disposables for about half this time due to yeast rash, we’re not back to using cloth and every single poop diaper is leaking out onto his cover. We don’t have enough covers for this. I feel like we’ve just been totally winging it and it’s not working. We’re still so in the newborn trenches because we’ve had several biiiig changes in the last month and a half and everything is just so overwhelming, so this on top of everything else is just way too much. Please someone help me stop regretting this decision. I will post pictures in comments

1. Do y’all prewash every day? I used to but I’d like to stop. I main wash at least twice weekly anyway, is that too little?

2. Diaper creams that are friendly to GMD prefolds? Currently using Badger diaper cream (not balm) which is a zinc cream. Didn’t realize these are incompatible with cloth. Ya live and ya learn 🙃

My third baby is 6 weeks old, my other two I successfully breastfed for 16 months and 9 months. This time around, we’re having a hard time. He’s breastfeeding, but he’s so fussy at the breast. He acts hungry, I put him on and he’s constantly unlatching and crying. We go between breastfeeding and giving him bottles of pumped milk and when he gets a bottle he seems so full and satisfied after. I don’t remember struggling with this with my other two. I’ve been debating just exclusively pumping but I really don’t want to do that, I want to nurse him. I have always had a harsh let down so maybe that’s why, but does this mean we won’t be able to nurse? Is this gonna get better? I don’t know why I’m struggling this much when I’ve done this twice already.

My son is almost a month old and we’ve been dealing with a yeast booty rash + oral thrush on and off since he was born. It’s been miserable to say the least. Once we figured out that his butt rash was yeast, we utilized the disposable diapies we had from our hospital stay and I bleached our newborn size GMD prefolds, our esembly cloth wipes, and our size zero covers from GMD. His rash went away and we ran out of disposables so we switched him back to cloth. Now, of course, the rash is back. I’m not sure if it came back because of putting him back in the cloth diapers? Like maybe I did the bleaching incorrectly? I’m just extremely overwhelmed by this, and we’re going through a very difficult financial time right now so we can’t afford to get more disposables. He’s also currently going up to size small GMD prefolds and size one esembly covers now, so I’m nervous to infect all of these with the yeast as well.

I have some questions:

1. The esembly covers we have in size one all have vibrant colors/prints on them. Are they safe to use chlorine bleach? Or do I need to do a separate load for the covers?

2. I have an HE Maytag top load washer. Do I need to add bleach to our prewash/main wash cycles or do I need to do those without bleach, then after the main wash do another wash without detergent and with the bleach?

3. He is prescribed Nystatin and Mupirocin creams for his butt. Are these safe to use with the cloth?

4. I purchased the organic, non bleached prefolds because I’m very very sensitive and picky about what goes on my kids butt/genital area. I’m so nervous about bleaching all these diapers because I plan to use these for all of our kids and I don’t want chemicals in that area (as much as I can avoid it) will bleaching the diapers harm him? Or will it harm the diapers?

5. How can I be absolutely sure that I’m killing the yeast so I don’t keep reinfecting him or kids that we’ll have in the future? I’m worried that the rash came back cause maybe I treated the diapers wrong.

Please help, this has been such a huge wrench in this first month of having him and it’s driving me crazy. My biggest reason for cloth diapering was not exposing baby to all the chemicals and it feels like that’s already down the drain.

I’ve heard a few different places that you have to be careful with which diaper creams you use while using cloth diapers. Why? What creams are/are not acceptable? I’m using the Badger diaper cream (not the balm) on cotton prefolds. How am I supposed to know if that’s okay or not? What happens if you use an unacceptable cream on them while they’re in their cloth diapers? I’m just very confused by this.

My third baby is almost a month old, I’ve breastfed all 3 very successfully (well, so far so good with baby #3) I have had a great supply with all of them. My first two were tongue tied which created a little bit of issues with latch until it got corrected. My third is not tongue tied at all. However, with all 3 of my kids, they never had this “perfect” latch, like mouth super wide/both lips totally flanged out. All of their latches have been fairly shallow. My current baby pretty much just sucks my nipple up like a straw (like what he does with a binky) and he comes off the boob constantly due to strong let down so trying to fix it just would be pointless.

Anywho, since I’m on my third baby now I feel like I have a fairly good idea on breastfeeding in general, which is why I’m curious if anyone’s babies actually have that “perfect” latch? Is that just like how they say breastfeeding isn’t supposed to hurt? Cause that’s completely bogus in my opinion, at least during the first month or so before your nipples toughen up.

I had my first 8.5 years ago back when the Boppy was round and full all the way around. I just had my third 3 weeks ago and the new Boppy we bought this time is more square shaped and the sides are much thinner than the front. It’s actually awful to use in my opinion. I miss the one design.