u/k_fen2026

I’m freshly 7 weeks postpartum, just had my first baby and I’m trying my hardest not to have postpartum depression but I feel like my family isn’t helping , I feel like they want me to be sad or to suffer . I always thought having a baby it would create a bond with my mom but I was completely wrong since having my baby my mom has became my enemy. She’s constantly bringing me down the fort week’s bringing my baby home my mom would constantly bring me and my fiancé down . Or if my baby is crying and has been crying for some time she’ll make it seem as if we’re hurting her? Or we don’t care that she crying when we are doing everything we can . And instead of helping she just yells at me saying how can you do this to your baby . What am I doing ? She’s having a bad night . I changed her , I fed her , I walked her up and down to help calm her. Me and my fiancé are trying everything to help her and my mom doesn’t make me feel better Instead of her helping she will say oh baby do you want to come with me instead ? Your mom doesn’t know how to take care of you and there’s days when I ask her to help she complains at the end saying “ oh I’m so tired “ “ oh I haven’t ate “ . She got upset with me because I like to have my baby’s diapers nice and tight so there’s no leakage and I saw how my mom did it and I asked her if she can do it the way it should be done and she got upset that turned into her yelling at me in front of my baby and I don’t understand I honestly thought I was going to have such an amazing mother and daughter experience taking care of my daughter with her and it’s the complete opposite and I’m devastated and hurt

I’m freshly 7 weeks postpartum, just had my first baby . And I always thought having a baby it would create a bond with my mom but I was completely wrong since having my baby my mom has became my enemy. She’s constantly bringing me down and when I ask her to help she complains at the end saying “ oh I’m so tired “ “ oh I haven’t ate “ she got upset with me just for telling her not to waste so much diapers , dish soap and wipes and for telling her that it ended up being a shit show her yelling while I’m carrying my 7 week old baby . Her saying she’s not going to help me anymore , she won’t take care of my baby anymore . Also a week ago I had asked her if she can watch my baby so me and my fiancé can get away for a night and come home the next morning because we were suppose to have our wedding on the 24th but since I got pregnant I had to cancel my wedding and now for her to say she won’t take care of my baby anymore so it’s like she’s finding an excuse for me to to go and have one night off ? I had enough of her passive aggressive comments and her putting me down. I went and laid my baby down and went to her and told her how a bad of a mom she is , she’s so toxic , she’s not a good mom . How come everyone else has such a good relationship with their moms after having a baby but yet I don’t get any of that with her . That she thinks she’s a goods person but she’s not she’s a horrible person . My family is so toxic i have a brother who treated me so horrible while pregnant till this day i have not introduced him to my baby to him and we live in the same household. He was not invited to my gender reveal or baby shower and worst of all he can care less if my baby is sleeping he will yell in his room , we would have the lights off because we finally put my baby to sleep and he will come in turn on all the lights start making so much noise waking my baby up . My household is so toxic I have a toxic mother who I feel wants me to have postpartum depression or wants me to suffer they way she did because she just told me a few days ago how she had no help and she was able to manage taking care of a baby with no help and it’s like okay ? But I moved with back because the agreement was you would help me ? That was the main reason why I came back ?
It’s so devastating that my family is treating me this way and my baby . I feel so hurt and disappointed