Hi,
I’m looking for help transcribing notes that were taken in this book on alchemy, I’m not sure who wrote it or when, but it looks like Gregg. Any help would be appreciated.
The book is Alchemy by Marie Louise von Franz.
There are many pages, and I don’t want to be greedy with someone’s time, but I’m really curious what is written.
I’ve posted a couple of the pages.
My boyfriend and I have been in a ldr for 4 years, but see each other a lot. We are actively working on trying to settle in a relationship in the country that he currently lives in. Housing is difficult there at the moment and it is taking some time.
I love him dearly, perhaps maybe the first person I feel strongly connected to in a lot of ways, and for the most part seems to appreciate me.
Recently I think he’s been coming to terms with some mother wounds, enmeshment stuff. I know it’s quite hard on him to deal with and express these things, but we have been able to have vulnerable conversations about it generally and they seem to be good.
Recently it occurred to me that perhaps I have been enabling and or triggering some of these things without knowing it.
Because of eldest daughter and probably some kind of enmeshment from my mom, I tend to over function. I’ve been aware of the issue, and have tried to talk about it. On reflecting about this idea, some things that happened fairly recently has sort of come up for me and I’m wondering if I have made things worse.
One thing is that I’ve helped him pay his rent when he was short. He was speaking to me about it, how stressed he was about it, he said he was going to ask his mom, and then I offered to help him pay for it, with the condition that he pays me back. I had made extra money that month and wasn’t hurting for money so to speak and so I thought hey let me help, maybe better than him going to a parent. I did it out of genuine love and wanting him to succeed and not feel like he has to go to parents, like hey I have your back. He agreed to it, and I sent him the cash. At first things seemed fine between us, but now with the enmeshment issues he’s feeling I wonder if that has made it worse.
The other thing that happened was I basically paid for our entire vacation a couple of months before the rent thing. He was short cash, I had bought the larger expense since I make more than him, thinking he would help with smaller stuff and food. The trip was to a place that he mostly wanted to go. The trip went kinda weird. He seemed to resent me or not really want to have fun , if that makes sense. I found out he had no cash on the first or second day of the trip, having already left.
I genuinely just want us to be good and have a good time. That’s most important to me:
I don’t care much about money or who pays for what. I realize I’m in a good position right now, and he’s taken a bit of a step back work wise since we met; but he could very well be a business owner again and eclipse what I make easily.
What can I do to be a better partner and not trigger him with enmeshment things? I don’t want him to be dependent or anything, I don’t want to control him. I know he has a big fear of that stuff too which sometimes holds us back.