Being stalked and harassed by an Indian man in abroad.
I am a 22 year old girl and recently moved to Kobe (Japan) for university. I always dreamed of leaving India from a young age. My parents use to forbid me from watching shows like crime patrol and Saavdhan India but I would still watch it when they weren’t around. Needless to say, those shows did irreversible damage to my psyche
I remember from the age of 10 , my biggest fear was always either getting r@ped or sold for pr0stitution.
I come from a small town in UP, it was dangerous to go out alone after dark. I had been chased by men in their late 20s on my way to the tuition when i was 13!!
I worked hard and finally left India, promising myself to never look back, but sadly India didn’t leave me.
I came to Kobe this year in April and got enrolled at a local university here. Everything was just perfect. I can’t even recall the countless times i have gone out after midnight, wearing shorts and never had to worry about constantly watching my back for threat.
Of course crimes happen in japan too but the frequency is nowhere near to how bad the situation is in India and the conviction rate is 99%.
Later this year, i also started dating a Nigerian man. We were both hanging out at a busy station when a group of Indian men who look like those who catcall women on streets saw us, and mind you they kept staring at me and my boyfriend. He also got a little uncomfortable but I asked him to ignore them but the story doesn’t end there.
I opened my instagram dm requests and saw dozens of messages from a guy who was threatening me to accept his follow request while asking reasons as to why I am not doing it. He even narrated my route to the university., i got so scared because I cannot change my route to the university.
I told him i have a boyfriend and he should leave me alone to which he first insulted my boyfriend for his skin color and told me that I should find someone from my caste to marry instead of being a shameless wh**** ( he is from my caste).
I blocked him, I checked his profile and he has proudly written his caste as well as ‘Haryana’ in his bio.
I am sooo disgusted by his audacity and refusing to accept my boundaries. He probably thinks he owns Indian women in abroad.
My boyfriend is a big guy and I moved to his house temporarily but I have leased the university accommodation for a year so I cannot just leave everything behind.
I am scared that he might try to harm me. I am so lost.