How do you deal with conservative family?
This coming Wednesday my wife and I (both 27F) have been invited to a girls night out with our cousins who are visiting from the south. They are very religious and apparently also MAGA. I have hung out with them in the past and things have gone fine but my mom just called to inform me that my dad went out to lunch with them today and apparently they spent the whole time talking about Charlie Kirk and how great of a guy he was and Trump being a great president. She told me this to suggest that I avoid bringing up politics and if they do to change the conversation.
After getting off the phone I just can’t help but think “fuck that”. Why should I have to keep my mouth shut while they spew a bunch of bullshit for the sake of keeping the peace? I have always been told to keep politics to myself but my very existence and marriage is political and they support the side that is blatantly against it.
I just find it so frustrating because most of my immediate family is pretty left/liberal but they are at the same time completely apologetic for the Trumpers in my family. They always talk about “family before everything” but I personally don’t want to be family with people that have such vile views. My wife is also Hispanic and I am white so there are layers to this besides just being gay.
Those that are in similar circumstances, how do you deal with it? What would you do?