u/kellsse

Unfortunately, I lost my mom recently to stage IV metastatic melanoma. Watching a loved one suffer through cancer is so depressing and honestly traumatic. In her final weeks we had brought her home for at home hospice, her wishes to be in the comfort of her own home. I would have taken care of her for as long as she needed, and as much as I didn’t want to lose her, I know she was suffering badly at the end & she is at peace now. I’ve been so sad, heartbroken, angry. I know that everyone grieves differently, but does anyone have any advice on what they did after losing their mom? I feel as though I will never feel happy again. I’ve just been depressed and feeling numb. I keep thinking of all of the things she’ll never be here with me and my brother for. Our weddings, becoming a grandma. Ugh, my heart. I miss her so much

Sadly have lost my mom, a melahomie, yesterday afternoon. She had stage IV metastatic melanoma, and me and her would come on here and read stories and advice. I really thought she was going to be okay, but she fought so so hard up until the very end. I just feel like I wanted to share, because we were silent members, never posted just commented a couple of times. I just want to send everyone love and support and strength that they can get through this, whichever stage. Hers was acral lentiginous melanoma, so it unfortunately is often found too late. I’m so proud of her, and I will miss her so very deeply forever and forever. 😔🤍

Does anyone ever regret how things went with treatment. All I could think is, what if my mom never asked her doctor what that little bump was? Within a year of treatment she went from stage 1 to stage 4 because the treatment angered the cancer cells and they spread around. I just think to myself, would she have a longer and happier life if it were just left and never knew about it?

My mom was diagnosed with melanoma last June & had a few surgeries to remove it and she has been treated with immunotherapy. Recently, her oncologist has spoken with us that each immunotherapy treatment she has tried is not working & she wants to try out a different clinical trial but we have to see if she is eligible. It has been torture watching my mom’s physical & mental health decline this past year. I feel so selfish that I want her to try everything possible because I know it takes a toll but I can’t imagine my life without her. I’m 27 and all I can picture is not having her with me in the future for moments like my wedding or having children. I’ve always been so close with her snd I just cannot fathom losing her especially in this harsh way. I’m hoping and praying that something can work for her.