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TLDR; Girlfriend does not feel that the compromises are two sided
I am moving to a new place, and I asked my boyfriend if he can help me move. I expected him to say yes he can help me move, but instead he said I would have to pay him. I told him I thought maybe we can get him and a few of his friends to help me move and I'll buy pizza and beer.
He told me he can move storage bins and anything smaller, but I would have to pay him for anything else. He explained to me that whenever him and his family have had to move they always just hired a movers.
I told him if I were going to pay him, I might as well get a professional company to do it. He agreed with that, and I had to end the phone call early with him because I was getting upset. He then calls back and says he still wants to talk about my day, I tell him it was fine. I am a little monotone, not really speaking to him and he says that he will help me move I just need to give him a plan. I tell him I appreciate it and that I still need to go.
I am happy that he called back and changed his mind slightly, but I am still upset that at first he wanted to be paid. I get it, I would want money for work as well. But I am also his girlfriend of 1.5 years. I figured this is something partners help each other out with almost unconditionally.
I want to know if I am being upset over nothing here. I know I shouldn't expect things, but I just wish I didn't have to get upset for him to understand its important for me.
I have made many compromises with him so far in our relationship, even if he doesn't think so. Whenever I go over to his place to stay, I sleep on the couch and he sleeps in his bed. He has a twin size bed so there is not enough room for the both of us. But I thought it was common courtesy for a man to give up his bed for a woman.
I am not religious, but it is important to my family that on major holidays we attend a church service. I don't like it, but I suck it up and do it anyway. He has told me that he refuses to go to a church service and that he would be miserable the entire time. I too would be miserable the entire time, but this is family.
He also will not move in with me because I have a cat. He is allergic to cats, and he also thinks its disgusting that they just walk in their poop and pee and then go sit up on the bed. I get it, but I also want to live with my boyfriend. I do not ever want to give up my childhood cat (15 years old) just for me to live with someone else. That just doesn't seem fair to my kitty.
I understand why he thinks this way about so many things. Why sleep on the couch when I have my bed? Why do something I would hate doing? Why work and not get paid? Why have constant allergies when I could just not?
Is this something I should just keep going along with? Do I mention to it over and over again to him? Do I just end the relationship before it gets worse?
I hate being the one having the problems with the relationship. I want this guy to be my partner for the rest of my life. I want him to be the father of my children.