Pisces man interested in me (Scorpio F)
There's a guy from college who seems to be very into me. He followed me on Instagram, and we happened to have a mutual connection who had the same ethnic background as I did . At the time, I had never even met that mutual in person. When we first started talking, he mentioned that he had seen me on campus with that mutual. The thing is, that never happened, so it felt like a lie. I didn't confront him because I didn't want to force him into making up more explanations, and honestly, I wasn't bothered by him following me or being interested in me. But that small lie gave me an odd feeling from the beginning.
Later, we met on campus, and he was very complimentary. He genuinely seems like he could be a sweet boyfriend. At the same time, I sometimes wonder whether he likes me for who I am as a person or whether he's mainly attracted to an idea of me. I know it's possible to be attracted to someone before knowing them deeply, but that thought still lingers in the back of my mind.
He tends to find reasons to text me. Sometimes he'll message just to check in or suggest that we meet on campus because "it's been a long time." He has asked me twice to go somewhere together, but what bothered me was that he never seemed to have an actual plan. I kept thinking, "If you're the one asking me out, why can't you decide on the place first?" I could easily make the plans myself, but I wanted to see some initiative from him. His indecisiveness stands out to me.He is quite curated around me + I like ppl who have individuality and don't just add the trending ig reel songs on their story
he posted something on his story asking whether he could pass off as a doppelganger of some actor so sometimes i feel he has a weak sun like y be second to someone when u could just be u
Another thing is that his behavior occasionally feels inconsistent. There was a day when I greeted him and he didn't greet me back, though it could have simply been an off day. Then, after I wished him on his birthday, he suddenly seemed much more enthusiastic again. It makes me wonder whether his feelings are stable or whether they fluctuate depending on the moment.
On the positive side, he's genuinely smart and does very well academically. He's from a different department. Sometimes I think he would probably make a sweet boyfriend.
The complication is that I don't currently see him as my future spouse. Based on my own beliefs and the indications I've studied in my chart, I feel that I'm meant to meet my life partner later in life, and there are a few qualities that I expect my future spouse to have which he doesn't seem to match. Because of that, I don't look at him and think, "This is the person I'm going to marry."
I wonder whether giving a chance is fair when I already have doubts about long-term compatibility.
I also have a more astrology-related concern. Some people say that relationships which don't lead to marriage can somehow "damage" your Venus, affect future relationships, or interfere with the path you're meant to take romantically. I don't know whether there's any truth to that, but the thought occasionally crosses my mind. If I genuinely believe that my spouse is someone I'm meant to meet later, would dating someone else now somehow take me away from that path, or is that just overthinking?
For context, I'm not talking about a highly serious relationship, nor would we be getting physically intimate. It would simply be two people dating and getting to know each other. Yet I still find myself wondering whether a relationship that isn't meant to be permanent can still have value, or whether it's better to wait for the person I believe I'm destined to meet later.
So I'm conflicted. Am I overthinking a few small red flags? Are the initial lie, the indecisiveness, and the occasional inconsistency meaningful enough to step back? Or should I stop trying to predict the ending, give him a genuine chance, and see who he actually is beyond my assumptions?
And for those who approach relationships through both a practical and astrological lens: can dating someone who isn't your future spouse still be a worthwhile experience, or does it create complications for future love and marriage? Does it really damage Venus?