There's a guy from college who seems to be very into me. He followed me on Instagram, and we happened to have a mutual connection who had the same ethnic background as I did . At the time, I had never even met that mutual in person. When we first started talking, he mentioned that he had seen me on campus with that mutual. The thing is, that never happened, so it felt like a lie. I didn't confront him because I didn't want to force him into making up more explanations, and honestly, I wasn't bothered by him following me or being interested in me. But that small lie gave me an odd feeling from the beginning.

Later, we met on campus, and he was very complimentary. He genuinely seems like he could be a sweet boyfriend. At the same time, I sometimes wonder whether he likes me for who I am as a person or whether he's mainly attracted to an idea of me. I know it's possible to be attracted to someone before knowing them deeply, but that thought still lingers in the back of my mind.

He tends to find reasons to text me. Sometimes he'll message just to check in or suggest that we meet on campus because "it's been a long time." He has asked me twice to go somewhere together, but what bothered me was that he never seemed to have an actual plan. I kept thinking, "If you're the one asking me out, why can't you decide on the place first?" I could easily make the plans myself, but I wanted to see some initiative from him. His indecisiveness stands out to me.He is quite curated around me + I like ppl who have individuality and don't just add the trending ig reel songs on their story

he posted something on his story asking whether he could pass off as a doppelganger of some actor so sometimes i feel he has a weak sun like y be second to someone when u could just be u

Another thing is that his behavior occasionally feels inconsistent. There was a day when I greeted him and he didn't greet me back, though it could have simply been an off day. Then, after I wished him on his birthday, he suddenly seemed much more enthusiastic again. It makes me wonder whether his feelings are stable or whether they fluctuate depending on the moment.

On the positive side, he's genuinely smart and does very well academically. He's from a different department. Sometimes I think he would probably make a sweet boyfriend.

The complication is that I don't currently see him as my future spouse. Based on my own beliefs and the indications I've studied in my chart, I feel that I'm meant to meet my life partner later in life, and there are a few qualities that I expect my future spouse to have which he doesn't seem to match. Because of that, I don't look at him and think, "This is the person I'm going to marry."

I wonder whether giving a chance is fair when I already have doubts about long-term compatibility.

I also have a more astrology-related concern. Some people say that relationships which don't lead to marriage can somehow "damage" your Venus, affect future relationships, or interfere with the path you're meant to take romantically. I don't know whether there's any truth to that, but the thought occasionally crosses my mind. If I genuinely believe that my spouse is someone I'm meant to meet later, would dating someone else now somehow take me away from that path, or is that just overthinking?

For context, I'm not talking about a highly serious relationship, nor would we be getting physically intimate. It would simply be two people dating and getting to know each other. Yet I still find myself wondering whether a relationship that isn't meant to be permanent can still have value, or whether it's better to wait for the person I believe I'm destined to meet later.

So I'm conflicted. Am I overthinking a few small red flags? Are the initial lie, the indecisiveness, and the occasional inconsistency meaningful enough to step back? Or should I stop trying to predict the ending, give him a genuine chance, and see who he actually is beyond my assumptions?

And for those who approach relationships through both a practical and astrological lens: can dating someone who isn't your future spouse still be a worthwhile experience, or does it create complications for future love and marriage? Does it really damage Venus?

Help. Be honest. Am i in the wrong? Recently dated a guy for almost 6 months. He was sweet caring, romantic, consistent...although he never asked me to be his girlfriend. He kept saying it would be a surprise and couldn't just ask me from one day to the next. I understood he wanted to be absolutely sure before compromising.

We hung out every weekend and talked/texted almost everyday. Last month he called me but i was busy at work and told him i would call him back after I got out. I called him back after my shift but no answer and he never returned my call. This turned into ghosting me for a week and couldnt properly tell me why other than he got pulled over the day he called me at work. However, he still apologized for his behavior and promised to never do it again. I still forgave him. His communication highly improved after that.

Now, this past weekend I wasn't able to hang out with him like he wanted too but we talked saturday for a few minutes. I never communicated that I would be unavailable the rest of the day nor that I would be busy on Sunday. Thats my complete fault. That Sunday night I texted him “Goodnight. I love you”. To reassure him everything was okay since I failed to hang out with him without explaining I was busy.

Now he blocked me on all social media. He didnt answer my call. I texted him apologizing for not hanging out together and for making him feel like he wasnt my priority or that i didnt care about him and that we needed to talk this through. He never reached back out to me.

I admit i did wrong in not checking in with him this weekend and he felt hurt. Felt like i ignored him and didnt care. However, how come he cant give me a chance to fix it but I was able to forgive him when he ghosted me for a whole week?? I only went 1 day and half of not communicating. Thats it.

for me it is gemini even for friendships (too double faced )

and virgos r too critical (frnds r k)

As a female scorpio, I've noticed that in my life only 2 men lovebombed me early on to the extent of even indirectly proposing (marriage), showed that were crazy in love with me, begging me, telling me exactly what i wanted to hear (no it's not the classic stuff every girl wants to hear), made me feel hypnotized and then when i showed a bit of reciprocity, boom ghosting. Both of them were aquarius men. Their behaviour seems pure insanity, but they almost lead me to the crazy house... At first they appear to be what you ever dreamt of and then they become distant, disinterested, ghost and they have the nerve to send a message once in a year for years to see "how you are doing", awakening anger, frustration and not letting you forget. Obviously i ended blocking them. But let me tell you, they love the block - unblock game and they both created fake profiles to follow me! What about you? What's the sign that has lovebombed you and then changed their behaviour completely?

Mines Libra. Venus was the name of George Washington's wife's teenage slave who he impregnated! Happy 250 lb big baby psychopath as our president who rapes children!

I’ve been seeing a guy for a little while. He’s been through a very difficult past relationship and recently started therapy.
He told me his therapist advised him to stay single while he heals. He also told the therapist he understood why they were saying that. Despite that, he’s still seeing me and has told me he’s not talking to or dating anyone else.
He’s invited me to his new home, gave me a key, and has been very open about what he’s going through. He also says he wants to take things slowly because he’s still healing. We did have sex a few times. He’s looking forward to see me and plan things ahead.
I’m trying to understand this from the perspective of people who’ve been in a similar situation. Has anyone dated someone who was actively healing from a difficult relationship? Did taking things slowly help? Hes very honest with me and share whatever is on his mind. He also said he feels he can trust me and that it’s not easy for him to trust.

I know this is a negative rant and I'm extremely sorry in advance. I understand if there's downvotes or anyone not really understanding what I'm saying. If you like being a Scorpio then good for you genuinely. I just have been struggling for years to accept myself even outside of astrology. It just seems astrology helps pin point this for me.

For years even before I knew about astrology I've just naturally have been a really emotional person, obsessive, intense, over thinker, worrisome, constantly think about death, and introverted. Once I got into astrology it honestly explained a lot about why I'm like this naturally but it has also caused me to compare myself so much.

Everytime I find myself admiring someone or wishing I could them without fail they ALWAYS were a Leo. I don't know why I was born as this. Why couldn't I have been born as that. They always end up being attractive, confident, positive and well liked with a lot of attention. (The ones I've encountered) EVERY Leo I've met they were rude to me and have always a sign that has without fail, bullied me. I'm always here... Constantly rejected, belittled, have never felt or been treated as pretty, and ignored. Invisible. Even when I have tried so hard to. "Be positive"... Why would I when nothing in my life has given me reason to be.

I feel so stuck. Scorpio rules everything I struggle to find beauty in. It rules everything dark. Anger, depression, death, destruction, lust, obsession, etc. Why couldn't my life be about surface level glamour stuff?? I have Leo MC, Leo Jupiter and Sun in 1st. I constantly feel stuck between my current identity and what I wish to be. But Everytime my reality stops me from trying because it's genuinely not me... no matter how hard I try.

I have a Scorpio sun, Scorpio rising, Scorpio Venus and Scorpio mercury. I'm shocked that I'm not a Scorpio moon to finish me off. I'm a Sagittarius moon with pluto conjunct it. Even Saturn in 8th house and 8th house North Node. Why so much Scorpio/8th house energy ... I don't know. It's so draining even as a child I've constantly felt this emotional and mental heaviness. If it's true our souls pick our path... I really don't understand why I would pick this. 💔

Hello everyone,

I just want to discuss something that has been causing me significant cognitive dissonance and genuinely making me sad.

I have been sleeping with this guy (Nov Scorpio male) and I am a Nov Scorpio female. Tbh we met under really unfortunate circumstances — I went on a date with a friend of his who I did not do anything physical with. He was just genuinely very attractive to me which I find very rare for me to feel at first sight. We have expressed our guilt about meeting circumstances — especially he has considering that’s one of his close friends which I find peculiar that he would even do that.

Anyways, a few months after following him on IG I decided to maybe DM him. From there, there was back and forth banter. He set up a date which he ended up canceling 15 minutes prior (super rude and kind of hurt my feelings), but he swore it was not due to me. Anyways, this is where I should’ve just let it go and had some self respect. However, in the midst of wanting to be chosen I guess and a clear lack of respect for myself, I slept with him without the date and without the effort. (Twice to be exact). And now I just feel absolutely terrible as this is not something I usually do ever because I tend to be a very passionate and not casual Scorpio, but I wanted to try being a bit more free spirited… maybe I should’ve tried that with someone I was less attracted to…. He has been inconsistent (not surprising) and a piece of me wants to message him and be like hey I don’t wanna continue to sleep with you due to this cognitive dissonance and your clear lack of interest…. Is that stupid? Should I just stfu and keep it moving? Please provide advice if you have any. I know I should probably just take it on the chin and say nothing but then sometimes I’m like whatever and extremely impulsive and just wanna say everything off my chest even if it’s stupid because it makes me feel better bc I’m already feeling like a regretful loser and frustrated that he only perceives me as a “hoe” and “easy” when I swear that isn’t my usual. I actually think that I am a catch contrary to his belief. Maybe I’m projecting on myself because ugh idk. If you think I should text which I would like it to be all in one text not requiring much of a response but gets my point across, what do you guys suggest? And when should I send it? Tonight or during the day? Or never? Pls help because I’m stressed and I journaled and prayed about it and idk.

Should I give up?

After studying astrology for years, one pattern I've seen over and over is that Scorpio energy isn't really about being "mysterious." It's about emotional self-mastery.

People often assume Scorpios are fearless, but I don't think that's what makes them powerful.

In my experience, many Scorpios actually question themselves more than anyone realizes. They replay conversations, analyze their decisions, and quietly carry emotional weight that most people never see.

The difference is that they don't stay there forever.

As they mature, something shifts.

Instead of letting self-doubt control them, they begin using it as information. They learn from it, adapt, and come back stronger. That's why so many older Scorpios seem incredibly calm under pressure. Their confidence wasn't handed to them—it was earned through experience.

To me, that's one of Scorpio's greatest gifts.

Not the ability to intimidate people.

Not the ability to keep secrets.

But the ability to transform pain into wisdom and uncertainty into quiet confidence.

I'm curious if anyone else has noticed this.

If you're a Scorpio, did you become more confident as you got older?

And if you've known a Scorpio personally, does this match your experience, or have you seen something completely different?

I'm a sun and venus with a lot of 10th house (career) placements. Lately I'm taking a break to heal and figure out what I really want.

I've always struggled making close friendships. I've had a lot of disappointment and have been working to address mental health so I can better connect, but honestly it feels like a lot of people just want surface level.

I've recently been in this girl group chat I thought was really fulfilling, but just this week I shared something vulnerable and got ignored. While they are active in other chats and instagram. Its kinda silly, but also it's this familiar feeling of betrayal and I'm noticing an instinct to cut them off. I feel like I've been going through this deep dark transmutation alone with little support. and to see the girls I thought were my support just prefer surface bs idk it makes me feel alien. I thought about bringing it up but it might just be an incompatibility with how deep I'd prefer to go.

The gag is other scorpios avoid me LOL its like too much of a mirror. how do u make friends? I'm good at finding connection anywhere cause I like to observe ppl and think deeply about the experience, but I cannot make a deep real friendship.

Sometimes when I tell people stories about what’s happening with me they seem shocked. Which surprises me.

I think Scorpio has the ability to deal with some serious issues and doesn’t bat an eye. But when you tell your story the reaction can be unexpected.

What’s the craziest thing that’s happened to you? I think our “crazy” is very intense compared to other signs.

I'm so sick of those compatibility posts EVERY WEEK between scorpio and taurus. As acorpio I hate that sign and never liked in my life nor attracted. So sick of that overhyped attraction, please just go away

Why do we get stared at so much? I just got off a cruise and I caught people staring at me so many times but they never came up to introduce themselves or strike up a conversation?! 😂 Do we have an aura around us that says we’re Scorpio’s or something?

I really liked this question I saw a few months ago and wanted to ask again with a few different questions. What I’ve noticed is Scorpio women are quick to introduce their partner to friends, but not as fast for family. The reverse for men.

1. Introduce to friends:
2. Introduce to family:
3. Talking finances/disclosing what you make:
4. Lending money:
5. Giving your phone password:
6. Location sharing:
7. Fully trust your partner:
8. How long until you want to meet their friends?:
9. How long until you want to meet their family?: