I've been in an a relationship with a Pisces man (46M) for almost four years, and I genuinely don't know if this is typical Pisces behavior or just him.

We were each other's first love as teenagers and reconnected years later. Everything started out beautifully. He was the one pursuing me, wanting commitment, talking about the future, introducing me to his family, and our families met as well. We were very close to getting engaged.

Then, over time, things slowly changed.

About two years ago, he started saying he felt "lost," emotionally numb, overwhelmed, and just distant. He never stopped loving me, but he gradually withdrew. There wasn't another woman, there wasn't cheating, and there wasn't one huge event that caused it. He simply kept saying he didn't have the emotional capacity anymore.

Last year, he traveled abroad to wander about alone for almost two months. Even his friends didnt know anything about him. Even while he was away, he still contacted me. We exchanged voice notes, had several long phone calls, and he would randomly tell me he missed me. But he also kept disappearing into himself.

When he came back, things became even more confusing. Distant.

On his birthday, I finally asked him directly whether I should move on. His exact words were, "Move on."

That completely shattered me.

I sent him a message accepting what I thought was the end of our relationship.

About twenty minutes later, he called me.

During that call he told me..

"I love you."

"I'm lost."

"I can't be in a relationship right now."

"I've been trying for two years."

"Don't take everything from me.. i dont know what im saying."

We stopped contact for 10 days.

Then he reached out, he called asking me to come see him because he wanted a hug.

We met.

He hugged me tightly, kissed me, and again told me he loved me very much... but that he still couldn't be in a relationship.

Then he asked if we could just be friends for now.

I told him I couldn't do that because friends don't have the history we have, and I couldn't pretend my feelings had disappeared.

Since then, something strange has happened.

I have completely stopped initiating contact.

I never text first. I never call first. I don't chase.

Yet every few days then daily, he reaches out.

Sometimes it's a phone call. Sometimes it's a meme. Sometimes it's an Instagram reel. Sometimes it's just to ask how I am. Just connecting at every level. Texting my mom.

Whenever we do speak, he says things like:

"I love you."

"I miss you."

"You're special."

"Nobody makes me feel the way you do."

"When I'm with you, I feel relieved."

"I don't want to lose you."

At one point I asked him if what he really wanted was all the closeness of a relationship without the responsibility of one.

He paused... and admitted yes.

He knew it wasn't fair. He said it.

My boundary has stayed exactly the same.

I told him it's either everything or nothing. I won't be his girlfriend without commitment, and I won't be "just friends" while we're still emotionally attached. I also told him I won't wait forever, and I won't keep chasing someone who has already said they can't give me a relationship.

So now we're in this strange place.

He continues reaching out. He continues telling me he loves me. He continues saying he misses me. He continues wanting me in his life.

But he still says he can't be in a relationship now.

I genuinely don't understand it.

For those of you who know Pisces men well, does this sound familiar? Is this fear, emotional burnout, avoidance, depression, or simply someone who loves you but isn't willing or able to choose the relationship?

I'd really appreciate honest opinions from people who've experienced something similar.

I love him wity every fiber in me. But I can walk away. I just dont want to abandon him when he himself doesnt understand whats happening within himself.

Any input would be highly appreciated..

I work at a gym, and a Pisces man was immediately drawn to me. He was shy, but he finally mustered the courage to ask for my number and ask me out a month later. It was the holidays (December), but we agreed to go out when I got back.

1. Date one: four hours and was wonderful

2. Date two: eight hours. He wanted to get physical, but I thought it was too soon

He went silent. I checked in, and he said he didn't think it was a good time. I backed off, but I couldn't fully hide that I still had interest for him at the gym. He still made it a point to say hello, but I knew it was out of politeness. Eventually, I moved on emotionally and can chat with him like every other gym member.

We both love NYC. Last week, I asked if he has plans to go. He said end of July. I honestly wasn't fishing, but I told him I wanted to go around that time, too for my birthday. The next day, he comes into the gym, and says, "I already have plans on your actual birthday, but I want to take you out the night after."

The last time we spent time together outside of the gym was January.

Is he interested again?

I have to be very careful to avoid things that remind me of certain places, people or times in my life. It seems like I'm unable to reminisce in a healthy way.

I moved away from my hometown around 10 years ago and sometimes I miss it and want to move back, but then I think about how I would have to avoid specific places because too many memories happened there with past friends or partners who I'm no longer in contact with and seeing those places again would give me a kind of bittersweet sadness about the past. It feels like even if I go back there it'll never be as good as it was because things are different now, and I'll never be able to relive those memories etc. I really avoid these places at all costs because it's too emotionally painful.

I also have to avoid any songs (which are particularly emotional for me) that remind me of someone or make me think "oh that reminds me of summer 2017. Turn it off before I start crying!!!" even if it's a good memory, I don't like it because it reminds me how much time has passed, how I'll never get those times back and how my life is so different now. It's not even necessarily that my life is bad different now, just different. There have been times when I'm out in a store, and an old song will come on and I have to leave because I hate how nostalgic it makes me. It puts me in a really sad mood for the rest of the day and triggers something deep inside me lol.

For example, I used to go to this mall with my dad all the time as a child, and now it sits abandoned. I can't even drive past it because it's too emotional for me. It's so sad for me to look at because it reminds me of my childhood and how different things are now and how it'll never be the same again.

I don't know. Does this make any sense?

I have a pisces girlfriend who very recently accepted my proposal. We've been friends for almost two years. [I'm an Aqua . ]

I'm hoping you will have suggestions and tips or information that will help me make the relationship stronger and get married. I know that pisces need a lot of assurance and care . I want to know everything I can do. I just want to keep her happy.

I was seeing someone for 3 months and I feel like we had this crazy connection and I could see a future with him for the first time. I know he felt the same but I feel like he ended up getting scared and ended it. It’s almost like all the traits we have as a pisces is too real/too much? I’m sorry I wish I could explain it better but did this ever happen to you? Or maybe I’m just delusional 😆

Does anyone else feel really off lately? I’ve been having mental warfare the last 2 weeks, just non stop thoughts and worries about my future and wicked anxiety. Then the last few days I’ve felt different like as if there’s been a shift? It’s nearly like a euphoric feeling now and I guess I kinda if I feel better and more clear headed of what I need to do. I’ve literally never felt like this before???

Idk really know if this is a Pisces thing. But sometimes I feel like I’m attracting the same type of people, experiences or honestly majority people are misaligned or my pov is off. How do I learn and how do I go about this. It’s frustrating and saddening when I tap into that energy to reflect.

There's a guy from college who seems to be very into me. He followed me on Instagram, and we happened to have a mutual connection who had the same ethnic background as I did . At the time, I had never even met that mutual in person. When we first started talking, he mentioned that he had seen me on campus with that mutual. The thing is, that never happened, so it felt like a lie. I didn't confront him because I didn't want to force him into making up more explanations, and honestly, I wasn't bothered by him following me or being interested in me. But that small lie gave me an odd feeling from the beginning.

Later, we met on campus, and he was very complimentary. He genuinely seems like he could be a sweet boyfriend. At the same time, I sometimes wonder whether he likes me for who I am as a person or whether he's mainly attracted to an idea of me. I know it's possible to be attracted to someone before knowing them deeply, but that thought still lingers in the back of my mind.

He tends to find reasons to text me. Sometimes he'll message just to check in or suggest that we meet on campus because "it's been a long time." He has asked me twice to go somewhere together, but what bothered me was that he never seemed to have an actual plan. I kept thinking, "If you're the one asking me out, why can't you decide on the place first?" I could easily make the plans myself, but I wanted to see some initiative from him. His indecisiveness stands out to me.He is quite curated around me + I like ppl who have individuality and don't just add the trending ig reel songs on their story

he posted something on his story asking whether he could pass off as a doppelganger of some actor so sometimes i feel he has a weak sun like y be second to someone when u could just be u

Another thing is that his behavior occasionally feels inconsistent. There was a day when I greeted him and he didn't greet me back, though it could have simply been an off day. Then, after I wished him on his birthday, he suddenly seemed much more enthusiastic again. It makes me wonder whether his feelings are stable or whether they fluctuate depending on the moment.

On the positive side, he's genuinely smart and does very well academically. He's from a different department. Sometimes I think he would probably make a sweet boyfriend.

The complication is that I don't currently see him as my future spouse. Based on my own beliefs and the indications I've studied in my chart, I feel that I'm meant to meet my life partner later in life, and there are a few qualities that I expect my future spouse to have which he doesn't seem to match. Because of that, I don't look at him and think, "This is the person I'm going to marry."

I wonder whether giving a chance is fair when I already have doubts about long-term compatibility.

I also have a more astrology-related concern. Some people say that relationships which don't lead to marriage can somehow "damage" your Venus, affect future relationships, or interfere with the path you're meant to take romantically. I don't know whether there's any truth to that, but the thought occasionally crosses my mind. If I genuinely believe that my spouse is someone I'm meant to meet later, would dating someone else now somehow take me away from that path, or is that just overthinking?

For context, I'm not talking about a highly serious relationship, nor would we be getting physically intimate. It would simply be two people dating and getting to know each other. Yet I still find myself wondering whether a relationship that isn't meant to be permanent can still have value, or whether it's better to wait for the person I believe I'm destined to meet later.

So I'm conflicted. Am I overthinking a few small red flags? Are the initial lie, the indecisiveness, and the occasional inconsistency meaningful enough to step back? Or should I stop trying to predict the ending, give him a genuine chance, and see who he actually is beyond my assumptions?

And for those who approach relationships through both a practical and astrological lens: can dating someone who isn't your future spouse still be a worthwhile experience, or does it create complications for future love and marriage? Does it really damage Venus?

I dont normally go this route but my partner blocked me after a fight. It was ultimately due to a miscommunication there is a lot overwhelming her emotionally and myself. We are long distance and it's been tough, we had plans to see each in two weeks. I pushed it up a week because we communicate better in person, I just want to show her I'm fighting her and I care about her. Any advice I'm going through it as well. As a Pisces would she appreciate the gesture of me flying to be there for her/us?

Sometimes it genuinely feels like I don’t belong on this planet. How can I feel so grounded, but also exist on a plane that I can only describe as moving water. The home, the job, the friend group and acquaintances, the first 25 years of my life. Getting to an age where I actually respect my boundaries has caused a lot of friend/ family loss. It’s lonely. I can’t help but visualize selling all of my stuff, moving somewhere far away, practicing philanthropy, giving kindness to strangers who genuinely need it and don’t ask for more, more, and more of me. I don’t know if is it’s living in the United States, but everyone around me is genuinely selfish. Putting up little boundaries feels like the only thing I’m doing these days. My heart feels like the biggest curse sometimes. I keep visualizing a life where love is just flowing through and I won’t have to protect myself emotionally all the damn time.

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I (pisces 27M) met a gemini 27F through an online game about a year ago. We clicked instantly and talked every day. After about a year, I developed feelings for her, but she told me she couldn't reciprocate. I accepted it and wanted to stay friends.

Recently, she's become much more distant. Her replies are dry, and she doesn't seem as interested in talking anymore. I've also invited her to voice chat and even suggested meeting up (we're only about a 3-hour flight apart), but she's always politely declined.

I genuinely care about her as a friend and just want her to know I'm here if she ever needs someone to talk to. At the same time, I don't want to make her feel pressured or uncomfortable (we argued before and that actually give me the chance to know her better)

Should I tell her I'm here for her and leave it at that, or is giving her space the better approach?

I have a habit of agreeing to stay friends with someone that I really have no intentions of staying friends with due to people pleasing but usually it's my way of basically slow fading and never speaking to them again. I still have some people pleasing tendencies and on one hand I feel guilty about it but then on another hand I really don't because I know that being friends with someone I had a crush on or dated romantically just does not work for me. It's just weird how you could just go from being romantically involved to just friends and it may work for some people but it doesn't work for me.