u/kiroxs

Not so much a rant, more like I'm heartbroken for my 28 year old son.

I'll apologize for writing poorly in advance. I just need to get this out of my head.

I'm open to any comments for either my Son or I.

Son met up with his Dad about two weeks ago and was told Dad is getting married (this weekend which is Thanksgiving Weekend) and that Son is not invited. And that there will not be an additional gathering for the holiday.

If I had to guess, my Ex probably would have liked him there but his new wife has appeared to lump her own feelings (of hatred, frustration, ?) of me in with the existence of my Son (based on his casual indifference towards her, this is my assumption). He's a good man and I couldn't imagine him being rude to her in person. He doesn't have a problem asserting himself if needed but he wouldn't want to embarrass anyone (himself included) in public.

My Ex and his new wife were caught cheating (by me). At that time, I told my Ex to just give our son some time to adjust before throwing Son and his GF together but somehow (probably because it was my suggestion) it has turned out that Son could not see his Dad without her there, ever. In order to avoid that, they would just meet up without telling her.

We separated 8 years ago (this month lol) and have been divorced for 4 years.

From day 1, I told my Son his feelings are valid and acknowledged that he should talk to his Dad about what happened. Because people make all kinds of mistakes in life and that just because we do something that a lot ppl don't agree with doesn't mean we should be judged our entire life on those mistakes.

I have also told him that if he intends on keeping his Dad in his life, then he must accept reality and be open to some kind of positive-ish relationship with the new wife.

I think the problem genuinely lies with my Ex and his lack of showing up for our Son. Ex seems to want a relationship with our Son as long as Ex doesn't need to stick up for him.

Not so much a rant, more like I'm heartbroken for my 28 year old son.

I'll apologize for writing poorly in advance. I just need to get this out of my head.

I'm open to any comments for either my Son or I, but would appreciate it if there isn't a lot of meanness in them.

Son met up with his Dad about two weeks ago and was told Dad is getting married (this weekend which is Thanksgiving Weekend) and that Son is not invited. And that there will not be an additional gathering for the holiday.

If I had to guess, my Ex probably would have liked him there but his new wife has appeared to lump her own feelings (of hatred, frustration, ?) of me in with the existence of my Son (based on his casual indifference towards her, this is my assumption). He's a good man and I couldn't imagine him being rude to her in person. He doesn't have a problem asserting himself if needed but he wouldn't want to embarrass anyone (himself included) in public.

My Ex and his new wife were caught cheating (by me). At that time, I told my Ex to just give our son some time to adjust before throwing Son and his GF together but somehow (probably because it was my suggestion) it has turned out that Son could not see his Dad without her there, ever. In order to avoid that, they would just meet up without telling her.

We separated 8 years ago (this month lol) and have been divorced for 4 years.

From day 1, I told my Son his feelings are valid and acknowledged that he should talk to his Dad about what happened. Because people make all kinds of mistakes in life and that just because we do something that a lot ppl don't agree with doesn't mean we should be judged our entire life on those mistakes.

I have also told him that if he intends on keeping his Dad in his life, then he must accept reality and be open to some kind of positive-ish relationship with the new wife.

I think the problem genuinely lies with my Ex and his lack of showing up for our Son. Ex seems to want a relationship with our Son as long as Ex doesn't need to stick up for him.