u/kissmehome28

(Hard Limit: No Mascdom)

I love a good college setting like if he comes from old money or something but no highschool kids pls. I just want sugarbaby/sugardaddy vibes except the part where he starts dominating her in bed and pinning her against the wall and saying cringey lines. It seems like for someone who loves smut its hard to find a book without it and I would rather not waste my time and get disappointed after reading half of it.

I loveee blondes (pls throw recs even if he is not blonde), tall, lean men. I hate ultra mega possessive lines but jealousy gets me so going so good. Jealous MMCs and a good yearner. LIKE YES PLS. Also, he needs to fall faster and harder. I loveeeee grumpy fmcs.

(bonus point if theres femdom hehe)

{Bound by Her by MZ Rylan}

The only RH book I read where the FMC was actually the most dominant and yet in the second book after she was emotionally attached somehow her dominance just kinda declined? Also happened in {Blood Oath (Cursed Legacies, #1) by Morgan B. Lee}

Why does falling in love equate to losing the dominance? Why do FMCs lose the passion when they are in love? Why not be even more dominant and show care? Vulnerability should not just mean being submissive even while dominating trust needs to be there for the dom as well!

I am so tired of fmcs always somehow getting "tamped" and not just in RH. Also in {Bad Alpha by Kathryn Moon} there just had to be a MMC who she was not dominating. Why is this a recurring theme and why does no one question it? There always has to be a man at the top of the pyramid. She cannot hold the position alone.

I really would have no problem if bdsm did not automatically equate to mascdom. But it is. When we think of bdsm we think of this Christian Gray and never a femdom character (believe me there are many) — because now that is a whole different genre. Women being the torchbearers of romance books... Why are we doing everything but talking about this? Why do we make such great great FMCs like Lana Myers for example and tame them in bed?

I do understand mascdom is desired comparatively more but once upon a time, bdsm — even the word was not as mainstream as it is now. We made it so. So why can't we also change this patriarchal stereotype for a change?

I am sorry if anyone felt like my ramblings are not valid since there are many femdom RH books, but it is just kind of concerning that every strong FMC needs to be tamed but the man taming just exists.

Also it is not as if I do not like strong masculine dominant men, ofc I do. I eat them up but it's hard not to see the difference between a strong MMC and a strong FMC who are always made to lose their "control" in bed. While the MMC having the same amount of control in real life will just exist as they are.

Anyways hope you got my point, but this is a recommendation request post. Please give some good TOP OF THE PYRAMID domme fmcs (i love it when personalities in bed and irl are completely diff so, maybe — dom in the streets, sub in the sheets MMC(s) and shy girl FMC who just happens to be ruthlessly dominant in bed)

Anything works honestly just no extreme fetishes and bigg, age gap.. if contemporary romance.

Also I have a femdom masterlist, and will share if anyone wants recs.

(Here's my list - https://www.reddit.com/r/RomanceBooks/s/aOsW8Fe98e )