u/kitties4636

I went to a dentist yesterday who apparently specializes in TMJ.

The office took X-Rays of my jaw & talked with me about a bite adjustment and custom mouthguard. They didn't seem too pushy as I told them I was concerned about the price. Right now, I am using a shitty mouthguard from CVS.

They gave me a treatment plan of a bite adjustment and custom mouthguard that would cost around $815. (I live in Miami, not sure if that makes a difference on price).

I guess I'm looking for an opinion from those who have TMJ and what they think about all this? Is it worth it?

Around 4-5 years ago, I was pretty close friends with someone who I went to high school with...She & I were long distance friends though, & I suspect she liked me more than I liked her. We would always give each other advice, & that was the foundation of our friendship from my eyes- Playing therapist with each other as we talked over the phone or sent voice memo's back & forth.

3 years ago, I moved to a new city and chose to distance myself from her, which I was cool with... I wanted to be distant, yet cordial, and that's where we were headed. Once in a blue moon she would text me to ask how I was, & that would result in a short conversation, which I was fine with.

Last August, she got engaged, & I of course texted her to congratulate her. This sort of opened the gates for her to start talking to me waaay more.

Around Christmas, she and I were in town at the same time, & she requested to see me. This was the first time we had seen each other in ages. We talked for ab out 2 hours, & a lot of the conversation was centered around politics as throughout our entire friendship, she had a really bad habit of making passive aggressive comments about how she & I have different views.

This bugged me, as per usual. During this time, she also mentioned that someone who we both know from high school who will be at her wedding, texted her & said some pretty nasty things thanks to the way he and I politically disagree. She told me, in a jokingly manner, not to bring up politics at the wedding- I would obviously never ever do that.

I was taken aback that she decided to tell me about someone else who will be at her wedding, who knows me by the way, was talking mad shit about me.

All in all, I don't really care to go to the wedding for a couple of reasons:

1. I am no longer close with this person. Throughout the last 4 years or so, I have seen her once. I don't really value the friendshiop as much as I used to.
2. I am not interested in putting time & money into going to the wedding as I am not close with her- I would need to spend $ traveling and spend $ on a hotel.
3. Her passive aggressive comments have always gotten to me- Even when we were closer. The fact that she chose to mention that someone was talking shit, really got to me. Due to this, I don't really want to go to the wedding & be around that type of energy.

Most of the people in my life, including my therapist, have told me that I need to tell her that I don't feel comfortable going to the wedding. I have been told that my feelings are valid & that chances are, she won't even be thinking of me on her wedding day.

I think I am afraid of hurting her feelings as she is pretty sensitive, though- What should I do?

My BF comes from an awful family... His parents conceived him on a one-night stand. His parents have also lied to him over and over again about what transpired between them as my BF met his father when he was around 5. His mother claims his father wanted nothing to do with him, while his father claims his mother didn't even tell him she was pregnant. My BF will never know the truth.

After his father entered his life, his parents entered a years long custody battle. It was so nasty that my BF feels his parents hate each other more than they love him. During this time he endured physical and emotional abuse.

My BF was left home alone several times when he was 6 or 7 years old. His mother started dating a sex-offender when he as a teenager. My BF's mother has tried to fight several people around town and has an active restraining order against her... She also bull-rushed my BF's step-mother at one point.

My BF's father regularly beat him when he was very young. When he was older, he sold my BF's truck behind his back and pocketed the cash, and also refused to pitch in for my BF's college education because he, "didn't believe in college." Mind you, this guy owns a massive farm and easily could have paid for some textbooks.

My BF's mother despises his father so much so, that she created a Facebook post about how terrible my BF's father is, how he is an abusive alcoholic who beat the shit out of her when she was pregnant, etc. My BF was very embarrassed as he comes from a small town and her post went viral.

My BF approached his father about some of the accusations against him in the post. His father didn't confirm or deny to beating my BF's mother while she was pregnant. Due to this, my BF cut his father off when he was around 18. His father never called him once to rekindle, until my BF felt bad 6 years later and rekindled. If it weren't for my BF, they still may not be talking.

My BF's mother also attempted to have him sign a POA when he was around 22. She begged him to sign it and claimed that if he was ever terminally ill, she would want his $ to go somewhere trustworthy. The entire situation felt fishy, and my BF never signed anything, but he felt betrayed by his mother.

Mind you, when I met my BF's family, all they did was talk mad shit about each other. I had his mother telling me to financially take advantage of his father, and his father's side of the family telling me that his mother is a nut.

Today, my BF saw a Facebook marketplace listing for his boat, which he was keeping at his father's house. Mind you, we live states away from all of his family... My BF has allowed for his father to use the boat over the Summer whenever they want, but he never wanted to sell it. The boat was listed around a month ago for 20K. The listing also said that they would accept a trade for a pontoon boat. This boat is in my BF's name & he paid for it. His father never once called him about selling his boat. His father also has random neighborhood people re-posting the listing in hopes this boat will sell.

My BF has not yelled called his father as he figured this out a few hours ago, but he is already telling me that he doesn't think his father would fuck him over in that way. He admitted to me that it isn't a good look for him, but he didn't want to come off as accusatory & as long as he receives the 20K, it's whatever. This disappointed me as I feel my BF plays "Mr. Nice Guy," in order to ease any tension amongst his family members, but they walk all over him. My BF is a great guy, he doesn't fuck people over, but his family has fucked him over and over again.

I know this is easer said than done, but I wish my BF would cut his family off entirely. He definitely keeps them an arms-length distance away, but I don't trust any of these people. Although we live 1000 miles away from them, I am afraid they will continue to take advantage of my BF.