u/krisjenny

When I get really stressed I can't really eat and it causes a nasty spiral of health issues. In America I would rely on unsalted saltines to get through. But it's happening here for the first time and I have no idea what to get. What do you eat that's bland and easy on the stomach? I'm in Yorkshire, not near and American stores. My best options at the moment are Premier and One Stop.

I've found Ritz here but they taste really rich and are not a good option. The thought of rice or mashed potato is unappealing. I get really picky when this happens and just want dry and bland, no major texture or flavor.

I just left my partner, we're both mid 40s. There was so much rage, and the other day it wasn't even a big explosion but I lost the will to keep trying to fix things. I really regret it but he's made sure I can't change my mind. He really hates me.

A lot was said, both during the breakup and in the countless fights before. He says I lie, manipulate, gaslight, constantly complain about things, have jealousy problems etc etc.

I'm so confused. If I do have these problems I want to fix them. But he was always so vague.

I know I don't lie - every lie I've been accused of was something that could have been easily cleared up if he had let me show him proof. I also never had jealousy, I trusted him completely and never looked at his phone/computer or anything like that. It never crossed my mind. And I made a point of never asking anything of him because the few times I did he exploded, so I don't think I was demanding either.

But the gaslighting, manipulation etc. Can I really be doing that without realizing? I feel awful that he feels so bad about how I treated him. But I didn't realize? How can I ever be in another relationship or even have a friend if I'm like this? I just don't know what to think.

I'm pretty sure my relationship with my bpd partner is ending, we're both in our 40s and have been together a couple of rough years. I moved from a different country to be with him, I really believed this would work and wow I was wrong lol. It's been bad for a while. Tonight, I tried to text with him after a couple days of silence, and it was calm enough but it went nowhere and he asked for space. That's fine, I backed off.

But I feel a bit like I've lost my mind. What he's upset about is almost verbatim what I have said to him over the last few months about issues in the relationship. He didn't acknowledge these things when I said them. But now he feels these exact things with the same words I use. Even him asking for space just now, he used my words. And I'm not saying his feelings aren't real, but I can't engage with him when it's like he's copy/pasted my problems and made them his own. It's not the first time it's happened, actually it happens with everything I've ever tried to address as a couple. What is he doing? Why is he doing it? Is he aware that he's doing it or does he truly now have the exact same feelings I do? It makes me feel like the universe is unreal, like I'm insane.