u/kwaikyy

VENT

My mom (68) has been using coke for the last 4 years. Despite threats I've made to move out, take my brother with me, report her to the county for being a delinquent guardian for my disabled brother and more, she still chooses to use coke or any other drugs she can get her hands on (pot, Ativan).

She lost 60% of her colon from her drug use, and had to be temporarily hospitalized for creating a new colitis; after her surgeon said straight to her face "if you keep using any drugs, you will either end up with a bag or dead."

I even had a report made by a co-worker of her's to stop her dealer at work (he's killed 1 person that we only know of). My mom is retired as of June but she was also fired due to the report made.

She blames me for not being able to ever get a job but she doesn't understand that she chose this lifestyle, it's going to get rough if she keeps it up.

I'm still waiting for the courts to transfer guardianship of my brother over to me so I can protect him. But I'm just at the end of the road for what to do for my mother.

She won't go to treatment cause "she's not ready", not even attempting to try day treatment for a few hours.

I'm scared she'll never do anything to better herself and I've already done everything I possibly can for her.

She will lie straight to my face about everything. I have no physical proof of her using except for one instance of something looking suspicious when I tracked her car. I no longer have access to her bank account. Her phone has no proof anymore. But tonight she is passed out and it's hard to wake her up. She falls back asleep in the middle of "conversations" if you could call it that-- she speaks gibberish half the time. Keeps staring out into space, talks to herself.

I'm just so frustrated, exhausted, hurt and numb from everything and the fact I'm dealing with this again after 2 months of her being clean.

It's getting frustrating talking to people who are in the know about this cause they just keep telling me non stop "you gotta do this, you gotta do that" when I can barely rest from working almost every day at my job, coming home to take care of my family and having to deal with this.

Fuck.

My mother has been using coke since '22 and has guardianship over my autistic brother (33). I'm currently in the process of getting guardianship over him, I've already renewed the guardianship for the next year (pretending to be her, I've done it for her for the last 3 years as she doesn't know how to anymore) and in the papers I stated My daughter is currently working petitioning to gain guardianship of my son. My son agrees to have her as the full guardian and I agree to fully relinquish my role as _____'s guardian.

I did all of this while my mother was in the hospital from severe colitis, she was bleeding out her rectum due to her cocaine use (worse, the batch she got was laced with heroin and some benzo).

She doesn't want to relinquish the guardianship at all and will only allow me to be guardian if she is co-guardian.

The huge issue with this as well is I still live with my mother, stepfather and my brother, I help take care of them but can't afford to move out. If my mother's drug use is reported to the county, social services will likely remove my brother from the household.

Is there anything I can do that would force her into treatment? She is at the point where she cannot take care of herself or anyone else.

I've made a report to her job about her use & her dealer. I haven't heard back from HR yet and I'm still contemplating reporting to the police or crime stoppers as this is a very difficult situation with my brother being involved.

Do I just wait until I'm able to get guardianship of him in the next month and if she contests, show courts proof of her drug use? I'm at such a loss on what to do. I just care about my brother's safety and getting my mother help before she kills herself.

Hi! I'm going to a concert at the Xcel Center Grand Casino Center on the 13th and this is my first time I'll be driving myself compared to the all the years I've had a ride bring me to & from.

What's the best parking situation? How early do I need to show up to guarantee a spot in the more cheaper spots?