A hardcore porn addict to quitting everything.
I have been struggling with porn addiction for a long time. I tried to go cold turkey many times and I always returned back to the videos.
It felt like I was stuck in a loop.
The best way to get out of it-> first of all, it worked out for me doesn't mean it would work for you too, everyone is different. It's just about sharing an experience maybe it can help someone.
What worked out for me:-
So first i noticed the root and how everything started. I watched a normal video for the first time -> soft normal videos -> rough one's -> hardcore -> roleplay story type videos. It was like:
Start-> escalation -> more escalation -> quit -> comeback and escalate ->quit-> comeback and escalate.
I tried to do something different.
This time I didn't quit, rather I de-escalated it.
Whatever rough things I watched to soft romantic and vanilla type videos.
It was hard at start but once you watch it for some time it works.
Don't go directly into vanilla if you can't but de escalate it from whatever you are wired to get aroused from.
This changes your arousal patterns and you started to love watching normal and loving videos.
From there on it's easier to let go of whatever you were watching and watch soft videos.
Now:
From Vanilla porn to Reducing the frequency.
Then,
Reduce more but don't cutoff,
And then whenever you get an urge to watch anything just watch a basic soft video.
Then try to slowly slowly leave it too.
Also my personal opinion, i think masturbating and porn are two seperate things and I'm not against masturbating. Maybe try to see if you are just releasing or getting an orgasm too ?. That's all.
I will answer all the questions