u/laced_monsieur

Long story short filed bankruptcy and opted to give up my vehicle that I was financing, but they have not come to retrieve the vehicle and when I called Toyota they had no notes in the system about getting the vehicle. I’m moving to Canada so I don’t know what to do here, I’ve called my lawyer and she said that she’s going to ask them release the lien or come get the car and Toyota said to leave the car at any dealership but when I tried that the dealership told me unless Toyota calls they can’t do that cause I’ll be held liable for any damages etc. just wondering if anyone has dealt with this

Just a bit of context, me and wife were in a long distance relationship eventually ended up getting married I moved to Canada from the USA to be with her and for the arrival of our child.

I’ve always been a “do it myself” all by my lonesome sort of guy, I moved out at 18 I always did things with no help no advice etc my parents are cool but more so I didn’t wanna be bothered so they didn’t bother me unless I ask for help then they’d do what they can. My wife and her family are totally opposite which is cool, I have no issues with the relationship she has with her family but sometimes my mother in law can be a bit too much

We lived with her parents for a few and immediately after we brought the baby home the mom was telling my father in law the babies name and added their family name at the end after mine that never sat right with me joke or no that left a bad taste in my mouth. Everything she mentions with the baby is always their side this their side that and then whenever baby does something silly or foolish it’s “your dad taught you that(meaning me)”

I help my wife out all the time with showering the baby, letting my wife sleep in when I can so I can get up with the baby etc. but they always just make it seem like the mom does everything.

Fast forward to us finally having our own place now and yes I won’t lie I’m a bit selfish, me and the wife dated for 8 years and within this year we finally got to live together but my mil and the family always wants to come visit cause they miss their daughter and wanna see the baby(which I don’t mind) but sometimes we see them like 3-4 times out of the week.

And whenever my mother in law comes over she wants to sweep, take out garbage, clean, move stuff around, we tell her not too and she says “you know I can’t sit still I’m used to doing everything myself” like idk if she feels like we can’t do this stuff so she wants to do it or she can’t let go of her babygirl. Like we moved from her house and she always asks us “yall dont miss home” “yall dont get bored here and miss home” “yall okay” like there’s care and i get it BUT MA’AM IM 35 years old not 16 chill out.

I really just might be overreacting but idk for some reason she just really makes my blood pressure rise and I am not someone who stresses AT ALL. Like I literally have a newborn child, we got a new car, new place and my USA based job is giving me until July 17th to find a new gig and I’m just here like “it’ll all work out” meanwhile my wife will mention my mother in law is coming and I’ll have a panic attack 🤣

I don’t wanna say anything to my wife cause I feel bad I don’t want her to think I’m taking her away from her mom cause I’m not. I simply would just not want to be here with her mom comes cause of how overbearing she is

Give it to me straight please

How long did you put up or tried to put up with your mother in law before telling your wife you wanted a divorce? How did it go?