u/lara_pgxx

I can't see gender as anything more than a set of descriptive and prescriptive norms that grew around biological sex, and no matter how hard we try to separate the bad ones from the "expressive" ones, or to separate them from sex altogether, it's always gonna be a set of baseless combinations of personality traits that have nothing to do with each other.

and I strongly believe the only reason why people still align to it most of the time is because of how conditioned they have been to behave according to those laws their whole life (if cis), or because they identify more with the personality of more people of their desired gender and want to be grouped with them (if trans).

over millennia, these roles have also been responsible for discrimination and the suffering of billions of people and served to signal their capabilities and rights, and most recently made tons of transgender people suffer feeling like they have to change their bodies to be "truly" of the opposite gender. This notion of gender has always existed, except for most of history its meaning was interchangeable with sex.

I don't know if I should even call myself agender because I'm afraid I'm contributing to this system, which I don't think is a good way to categorize people's personalities or appearances and ends up restricting their individuality.

thank you for reading, lots of love <3

I remember plenty of times when I heard someone make a sexist comment and felt the need to address it.

When it's a man being attacked, I tend to have extra care while speaking so that I do not sound like one of those "men's rights" activists, who see their problems as above women's.

But when it's a woman being attacked, I am sometimes met with the accusation of being "performative" by women and I'm left wondering if I did something wrong. Surely I shouldn't have been quiet about it, right? I hate seeing people being treated unfairly.

Is there anything specific I should be careful about? Could there be something triggering this response, or is it something I just have to live with?

to be clear: I'm NOT looking for a romantic relationship

I want to share my love and warm words with other people without the pressure of romantic buildup

I love receiving and giving affection and I think life would be easier if people showed more positive feelings to each other

I'd be delighted if you came say hi to me and showed some caring, affectionate words, so DMs are open :)