u/laraemr

We are both at uni and he has an obsession with his sport. Now, this isn't an issue - he can spend his energy and time how he likes and I love that he has a passion. I espeically love that it is a very hardcore, active, dedicated passion he has. However, he is in the realms of this obsession being so toxic and it infiltrates our relationship. Naturally, he yaps to his heart's content about this sport and I listen and participate and try to even recall info he has told me before which I have remembered so that he feels I am engaged in it and a part of this. I also used to do this sport so I know technical stuff about it.

The issue is that he is like an addict. He will try to do something, and end up just rotting doing research on random schoolboy atheletes (or just watching videos of the sport) and will do this for hours on end, even when he has uni work to do, tasks he has told me he wants to achieve, etc. I try to prompt him to do these things he has said he wants to achieve, but the moment he starts doing this intensive non-stop research, he cannot and will not snap out of it. He has just spent the last two hours doing this (that is just the tip of the iceberg, it is often far worse). It is fine that he has this thing he loves, but it is influencing his life and mine now. Our plans get interrupted because he 'got distracted' and spent too long doing it; our evening film doesnt end up happening because he will be watching videos of the sport and won't stop/will say '5 more mins' and end up not stopping; even when he is talking to me, a lot of the time he will pull up content to watch almost like his 'subway surfers' background to me speaking to him.

I just spoke to him about it and I did it the wrong way and was too accusatory and told him I was worried and that it is great he has this hobby he loves, but that I am worried it is becoming more than an obsession. He was very defensive and claimed there was nothing wrong with it, but I got a little heated because of how much it has been impacting our time together, which means there is something wrong with it (also, I have voiced this before and asked him to stop in the moment and he wont).

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