u/lavenderfruitcake

A few months ago, I had a falling out with my best friend. I confronted him over a tone-deaf statement he made, offered constructive criticism, and he resorted to abandoning me instead of accepting his mistake and moving forward. Almost a year later, he messaged me (only on the day he was moving to a different city), saying he was sorry and couldn’t face me in person because he knew he had made me resent him through his actions. I have built up so much resentment, feeling a deep betrayal. I was slowly forgetting it until he messaged me, and now it feels like the resentment that has been lying dormant has awoken again. I feel like I’m dying holding everything inside and I just want to let out everything. I don’t know whether I should text him back and let out my bottled-up frustrations and resentments, or just let it go and leave that part of the past.

My friend made a tone deaf statement almost a year ago. I called him out on it and instead of accepting my constructive criticism and moving on he abandoned me instead. We were friends for a few months, and we would always be open to talking to each other about our frustrations. He was almost like a sibling to me. But then he decided to ignore me simply because I called him out and he only apologized after he moved out of our city. I returned the favor and ignored him too. He could’ve apologized at any time during those months in person, considering that we live near each other. I am puzzled whether he means the apology or he just wants to be exonerated from his guilt.

My friend made a tone deaf statement almost a year ago. I called him out on it and instead of accepting my constructive criticism and moving on he abandoned me instead. We were friends for a few months, and we would always be open to talking to each other about our frustrations. He was almost like a sibling to me. But then he decided to ignore me simply because I called him out and he only apologized after he moved out of our city. I returned the favor and ignored him too. He could’ve apologized at any time during those months in person, considering that we live near each other. I am puzzled whether he means the apology or he just wants to be exonerated from his guilt, because he has nobody left.