u/lavenderhazee

That was missing from her closet that she bought by stealing my mom's savings months ago. She talked about how other perfumes she had were missing and thinks I hid them in storage, but I didn't because I sold them. The thing is she said she stole my mom's savings because if I can get away from stealing my sister’s money before she got sick then she can too. I do take the blame for stealing her money back in 2024 and my mom had to tell her what I did and she said nothing about it because at the time her schizophrenia was developing more and more severe day by day so that issue wasn't even on her mind much. I did feel so bad about doing it that I told her that I was sorry and she told me not to worry about it. I still felt so bad and guilty that I told her that I would repay her for everything that I stole from her once I get a job or I get accepted to earn general relief payments monthly little by little and she said “okay”. She didn't threaten to call the police on me at that time to report what I did to her. Nothing.

So when we found out she stole my mom's savings months ago, my mom threatened to call the police and my sister said, “You wouldn't want to do that” because she would tattle on me to them as well so we’ll both go to jail and my mom doesn't want both of us to go to jail. But since she stole over $14k from my mom (excusing it as my mom letting me get away with it so she's punishing my mom for my wrongdoings) then I don't have to owe her the money I stole from her anymore and have to now pay it to my mom.

That's why when I posted on her earlier this year about the whole ordeal and a lot of commenters were bashing my mom for her decision not to call the cops on my older sis is because I left this info out. After all, obviously, I am ashamed of what I did 2 years ago and I cry every time I get reminded of it or when my sister gets into arguments with my mom.

I even confided in my therapist about what I did and cried that it’s sad that my sister wouldn't have done this if she weren't schizophrenic and I’ve done what I did as a person who doesn't have schizophrenia. I'm not writing this to gather your sympathy for what I did because it was so horrible what I did to my sister at the time.

I know right, what a mess of a family we are….

Before having this illness she hated the idea of watching it or even looking at a male or female with their clothes off, doing porn things. She constantly identified as asexual before all this happened to her and never fancied being with a man or woman, ever. But since she developed this illness, she became too obsessed with her ex-boss's son and in the early days, she would call him and profess her love for him, saying how much she wanted to be his girlfriend. According to my mom, the only time she ever spent time with the ex-boss's son was when he would take her to lunch nearby and just have a casual conversation, talking about work, hobbies, just the casual thing. The same year she became ill, before the illness started showing, she began to buy a ton of nail polish. It became her new obsession. Before that, she was obsessed with buying stationery for years, until early 2024, when her interests shifted to nail polish. Not shaming her for the sudden new interest in that but what I’m saying is looking back on that, everything about her buying nail polish just made sense. She wants to impress her ex-boss's son because she’s still obsessed with him and his family (talking about how much she hates his parents and sister, thinking that his parents think she’s stupid because she’s shy). Almost 2 years have passed with her and this illness where it’s slowly getting worse. First stealing money (2x), now this. And yes, I know watching porn is normal but when it comes to my sister, I remember she would always hate on it, plus always sneaking in her stuff as a teen because I was pretty nosy back then, I never saw an ounce of internet history, files, pictures, etc of her saving any porn.