Husband never initiates sex
I first noticed it a while after I moved in with him, after we got engaged. I talked to him about it multiple times, and every time he promises to do something about it, and nothing changes. I tried everything to make him comfortable with initiation. I explained it’s nice to know that my partner wants me at least once in a while. He says he fantasizes about me, he wants to touch me all the time. I tell him when I have a fantasy or how I pictured him doing something to me. And he says ‘ooh’ and that’s it. Sent him a nude for the first time in my life and he masturbated at work. But no sex.
I don’t understand what the problem is. He says there’s no problem. It’s not even like I ask him to make me finish, which he never cares about, but can’t he at least make me feel wanted? Isn’t that his role as a husband? Masturbation doesn’t work for me, I just want to be held or touched by my husband, is that too much to ask for? I shower every day, I am fit, clean and beautiful, and yet I do not feel wanted as a woman by my husband. Ive started to resent him and resent myself for caving every-time and initiating when he doesn’t. I feel like I’m wasting my youth away on a man who feels like a Ken doll.
This time, we went 33 days without sex when I stopped initiating. Barely any physical touch too.
After that I gave up and initiated. And then this man says, ‘a month?!! That should be a crime’ like damn he didn’t even notice? I’m frustrated and pissed at this point. I think I’m going to see exactly how long it goes on if I don’t initiate. I’m tired and I’m giving up. If he doesn’t care, I guess I have to learn to do that too.