u/leafdroplet_OTGW

I want to be clear that I love my mom very very much, and she is a wonderful lady. she is always been there for me and I feel like this situation has only shown up within the last few years and I don’t know why it started.

I’m back in town visiting my mom- I was really upset about a situation and crying and I look up and she’s smiling. I’ve had this conversation with her multiple times, so I won’t go into it, but I expressed that her smiling while I cried, confused me. I got upset and said that pissed me off and she got upset that that made me upset. I ended up storming off and heading upstairs, not my finest moment. I immediately apologized to her, but was still insistent that I needed her to stop smiling when I cry.

so am I the asshole for getting angry when we’ve had this conversation before? She’s saying her smiling while I’m venting is her “being herself.” and it’s just what she does. but I don’t think smiling while your child is crying as a personality trait, or one’s way of expressing themselves?? I don’t wanna be an asshole, but it genuinely hurts my feelings.

I can’t tell if I’m being a jerk to my mom, because I don’t want to be. but every time it happens, it hurts my feelings and I tell her every time. but she forgets everytime. even though it’s not her intention, it feels very invalidating or like my crying is entertaining. Which logically I know isn’t true, and she’s told me, but I still feel angry when I see it.

I kind of feel like an asshole sitting here at night after our fight, but I also think it’s OK for me to not want somebody smiling like they’re watching a nice game of scrabble at me while I sob.

so basically what the caption said. This car is from 2015 and when my dad passed away, I got it. It’s one of those fender kind of flat slanted back beetles. Not as round, I guess they were trying to be a little more slick and sleek lol. Anyway, this has never happened to me before in my whole time of having this car/ my dad having the car.

I went out to get some drinks with some friends I remember closing and locking the doors. The sunroof wasn’t open and neither were the windows- because it was so muggy I could only handle the AC no outside air. Anyway, after two hours of drinks, I came back to the sunroof being open, and both door windows were open as well.

I checked everything and nothing was stolen. I don’t know if it just happened after i locked the car or happened while I was eating and drinking? but it was confusing. I searched around the car to make sure everything was there and luckily it was, I wasn’t in a great part of town so I feel very confused but happy that nothing was taken lmao.

Anyway, I wanted to ask if this happened to anyone else before? if it happened once and went away or if this is a sign my car is dying lmao.

I’ll keep an eye out on my car for the next few days, but i I have never seen anything like that before. I know 100% everything was locked and all the windows were up- I looked it up and some people said it could be a misfire or electrical issue? But other than my stereo not working my car’s been completely fine.

This is advice for people who have kaiser insurance and want to get a nexplanon. i’m 26 and I have had nexplanon twice before(not through kaiser) and it went beautifully. I ended up getting it again a months ago and the experience was not good.

A week after insertion I was having extreme pain up and down my arm, it turns out that my nexplanon shifted and was poking against a cluster of nerves, causing there to be nerve pain up my neck and down my arm through my hand. It became absolutely unbearable and i could barley move my head or my arm without pain, I called them to see if they could get me in for an emergency removal and they said they do not do that. They offered an appointment a week away… not only could I not handle the pain, I am an ice cream scooper for the summer and had seven days of closing shifts coming up (and bills to pay) and couldn’t physically do my job or wait that long.

Something they don’t tell you about Kaiser as they don’t have people at their urgent cares that can take out Nexplanon in case of emergency- they haven’t trained them to do it. At the ER they are also not trained, they had to call in an OB/GYN and I almost wasn’t seen.

I understand this is a rare case, but I’m here to warn anyone that if you were not feeling good sensations immediately call so they can get it checked out and maybe remove it that day- especially if you have Kaiser.

I feel very fortunate that I met a doctor that was willing to go above and beyond and help me, I was also lucky that I had my mother who’s in the medical field with me advocating for me.

I do not want to scare anyone, but I feel like this is important information to share with people who may are thinking about getting it through Kaiser clinic and god forbid anything goes wrong. The moment you feel a bad sensation just meet for a check up (better safe then sorry) to make sure everything’s fine, make sure to advocate for yourself and find someone who can support you through the journey as well.