u/lethalmami

Holy sh*t. You guys weren’t kidding. We have one pro-se litigant, we represent mom, and he’s genuinely the worst. 8+ emails almost daily. Paragraphs & paragraphs, bullet points galore. He’s not my case, but I can still see all the emails that he sends us. Apparently he’s been fired thrice by his previous attorneys. This man is genuinely a horrible person, and he refuses to leave the attorney alone lol. It’s a headache. We have no choice but to speak to him but we avoid him as much as we can. I find it amusing when pro-se clients will email us using AI, they sound very strategic & well-read. Until they attend a hearing and verbally, they sound like clowns. Family law is one big circus sometimes. Honk honk.

We’re long distance, so for every weekend I go visit her, I bring her flowers & a little sweet treat, plus a letter/card. I love getting her flowers 💐 how do my fellow femmes spoil their girls?! I’d love to know!

Phew. I work in family law, it’s about 6 weeks in. I’m not new to overly angry, abrasive, rude attorneys BUT- it’s still always dissapointing to deal with them. I’ve learned not to take anything personal, whether it’s from our clients or the attorneys themselves. However, being yelled at or cussed out is NEVER acceptable. Ever. Our associate attorney went berserk on a paralegal who’s remote, over a very minor mistake involving lodgment. He started to yell loudly to our office manager & stormed out of the office saying he’s taking the rest of the day off. He has a very aggressive personality & he just seems like a very neurotic man. I knew from my first week here he’d be a pain. I read so many posts about fellow paras/legal assistants being yelled at or disrespected, and it’s very dissapointing. I understand we work in a very high-stress & demanding environment, but that doesn’t give ANYONE the right to undermine or disrespect anyone else in that capacity. My first time working for a family law attorney, I was a 20 year old who didn’t know how to set boundaries & took every little comment to heart. I cried everyday at work, my attorney was a 74 year old retired marine wrestling coach, I was being yelled at constantly. In addition to our clients, (family law IYKYK) I was not doing okay. I learned how to maintain my composure, set boundaries, remain professional & diligent no matter how demanding, entitled & RUDE my team mates can be. You can only put up with so much, and we deserve to be treated fairly. It’s NOT normal and it’s NOT okay for grown men to throw tantrums. If you’re being mistreated or feel like you’re being disrespected, and if you’re able to leave, do it. Toxic firms will drain you. Not everyone will build the same “resilience” putting up with nasty, miserable attorneys.