u/liillyoo

I was talking to my friends about matriarchy and they thought it was just a reverse patriarchy.

I tried to explain to them that a matriarchy was a completely different social structure to patriarchy not just a mirrored version but they just couldn’t understand.

This didn’t help when they looked up the definition of matriarchy and many sources stated it was the opposite of a patriarchy.

This was extremely frustrating. In their defence I was also struggling to define what a matriarchy is without it sounding like a woman domination.

One example of their confusion was that if a woman was in power of a country then that country is a matriarchy or that we don’t live in a patriarchy because women can pass down property to their daughters.

Im reading this really interesting book that is doing a great job of defining a matriarchy I will give a presentation to my friends on defining matriarchy to help them understand.

The name of the book is called Matriarchal societies: studies on indigenous cultures across the globe

I am not content with mine and my partners sex life. It mostly consists of penetrative sex ( as the main act) which I do enjoy but never orgasm from.

My partner orgasms most times we have sex and even though I like that he does I’m starting to feel left out.

I don’t mind not orgasming during sex if I felt like he was trying or it wasn’t focused on penetrative sex ( as I feel like that’s very male centred) but both of those situations are true.

I feel like if we stopped having penetrative sex but still continued other sexual activities it may solve this issue perhaps ?

Note: I have already spoken to my partner about touching me more during sex but I mostly have to ask for it or it’ll just to impatient to enjoy it. So by banning penetration it will force both of us to explore other activities.

Edit: sorry I meant to say “I’ll just be too impatient to enjoy it” in the note section

https://www.reddit.com/r/TeenagersBharat/s/sFcCCkvYRd

( this post is abt a women being worried to raise a boy child and another women telling her she would abort it in her position due to men most likely doing harm to women in their lives)

I feel like the general response to this post by the teenager Bharat community contains lots of misogyny and a tone death take on the post.

In a world where rape culture and the patriarchy dominate it is incredibly difficult to raise a boy child so they don’t add to the problem. It is possible but would require a lot of effort and even then if they fall into the wrong friend group at school or on the internet it can be hard to do anything abt it or reverse the damage.

I feel like refusing to birth males is an appropriate and understandable response to the MILLENIA of abuse we’ve suffered at due to men and the patriarchy. Yet these comments are calling these women or “creatures” disgusting for suggesting it despite the fact many societies have killed girl infants (not even aborted) simply because they were deamed unworthy despite women never being a threat to men’s rights or lives historically and presently.

My bf and i(F20) have been having sex for about a month now and even tho i like being intimate with him the sex is very penis centred and I’ve never orgasmed from it.

At first I didn’t mind this because he wasn’t orgasming either due to separate issues. However now those issues have been resolved and he orgasms everytime (sometimes multiple) I feel a bit left out.

He has touched me a few times before but never for more than a than a minute (and I asked him to majority of times). This is normally because I get uncomfortable and move his hand away or we get distracted.

I wouldn’t mind the fact I didn’t orgasm if I felt like he was focusing on me a little more but the sex just feels very penis based and it’s making me feel very frustrated at myself and like I’m a bad feminist for participating in this kind of man-centred sex.

If anyone has any experience with resolving similar sexual pleasure issues w their boyfriends I would love to hear how you approached the matter.