I am literally desperate at this point. my partner is progressive but religious and I am afraid if I don't get my shit together, I'll lose them. what are some things that helped you?
I'm not a femme or a butch, but sometimes I wish I had a label for myself. it's hard to explain my relationship to others, when neither of us is "the boy" and both of us have a high level of fluidity in the way we dress. I relate to the ways that butch lesbians describe themselves and the ways they protect and take care of women, but I sometimes like to present more "girly."
when I first came into the queer community, I was leaving an oppressive religious environment. one of the things I loved was that queerness is so fluid and doesn't follow conventions. but now, I feel like people are being so legalistic - like I'm destroying the lesbian community just because I don't fully identify as a woman.
I know I don't need a label, but I've been feeling out of place as a lesbian after being jumped online for identifying as nonbinary/gender non conforming. so I am feeling a little sensitive about it right now. (I made a post here that you may have seen). so many people were telling me I am not a real lesbian and that just wears on you...
I know I should look for answers within myself and not the internet, but this is just me venting... life is hard enough, and I wish I could just find a box that I fit in, so that I didn't have to think about it anymore.