do masculine gays even exist?

18M, Bi, I am a person who was never into sex and all, and no I am not demisexual. I just wanted someone to love, cuddle, support, grow along with each other. But indian dating scenario is so lusty. Its always some bhondu looking guy or some bald uncle hungry for sex.

In a heteronormative setup, people live in a relationship, that might or might not be a long distance one, regardless of distance, they have always supported each other, loved each other, stood for each other at their lowest, it's just that such a case doesn't exist here with these hookup cultures. I mean, is everyone immune to love these days?

I have always been a sucker for masculine gays who are handsome as well. I don't like some random twinkie or femboy hungry for sex and all. You might contradict here but I feel like those lustful ones who just look for sex are the ones who have been nothing but a stigma in the name of the LGBTQ+ community.

I just want someone to grow with, to kiss or cuddle at times, who reciprocates my love equally and is emotionally mature to handle long distance. And also masculine and not twinkie or smth like that. I guess it's too much of a demand for me😭 but being a masculine bi, the ones I always find attractive are either straight or have boyfriends. Ughh

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u/livingasshole2008 — 26 days ago

Is it too demanding for me?

I mean, I am a bi, 18M. I always came across creepy gays hungry for sex and all. But I get disgusted by sex. I always see people commenting their sexual positions, like t or b, and I feel so disgusted looking at those people. I mean I am nobody to judge but these lusty hungry for sex kinda homosexuals have destroyed the LGBTQ community even further than its somewhat broken reputation it already had. I have always imagined myself having something old school type shit like those straight couples have. I always find Romantic dates, cute kisses or hugs, holding hands type things very fascinating.

I mean, I have been a single throughout my life. Is it too much to ask for? I mean, in the sense that I already am born with something which the society doesn't accept and upar se I am doing so much nakhre on these things. But I have my own boundaries na yaar. I mean I just cannot accept every other guy in this economy thinking ki waise hi nahin milte log aur jo milte hai unko bhi reject kar deta hu, I don't keep such mentality.

I still believe in romance, dates and adoring each other typa relationship where we project our growth and grow together and support each other through every point in our career. But I feel like this new hookup culture has ruined it so much. It's really hard to find "love" and by love, I mean "loving their flaws and imperfections, and helping ourselves grow together typa love".

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u/livingasshole2008 — 26 days ago

Typical closeted bi. Don't know how to cope up with life

I am the typical closeted bi you can find. 18M. Feel like I'm pretty handsome for people to not realise I'm bi. But the feeling that I'll be left alone in future is eating me from the insides. My family is good. I feel like they can accept me. But I cannot stay like this my whole life. Only 2 of my closest friends know about it. One is a guy another one's a girl. They support me a lot and are okay with who I am. Whenever I watch some indian BL i feel a weird sort of a void inside me. I feel so empty. Don't know where I'm going. But this gradual stoicism seeding inside me is making me feel melancholic and makes me have a negative approach to life.

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u/livingasshole2008 — 1 month ago