The Bored Sex: Women, more than men, tend to feel stultified by long-term exclusivity—despite having been taught that they were designed for it. (From The Atlantic)
>"“The problem is not that they are functionally unable to have sex, or to have orgasms. Or frequency. It’s that the sex they’re having isn’t what she wants,” Gotzis told me in a recent phone conversation.
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>“Long-term relationships are tough on desire, and particularly on female desire,” she said.
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>“When couples want to remain in a monogamous relationship, a key component of treatment … is to help couples add novelty,” Gordon advised. [...] Of course, as Jane’s example shows, lingerie might not do the trick. Nelson explains that if “their initial tries don’t work, [women] will many times shut down totally or turn outward to an affair or an online ‘friend,’ creating … a flirty texting or social-media relationship.”"
This is nothing that I didn't already know (women crave novelty, and the spark eventually fades) but it's nice to see it in a mainstream publication. It makes me feel vindicated and glad that I never got married - while I would love a "forever relationship", I'm not signing a blank check that can set me up for being financially fleeced when curiosity inevitably gets the better of the other side.