u/lost_at_sea27

I’m not financially dependent on purpose. I am attending school and nearly done. I also have our 2 year old son who has a lot of appointments and speech therapy so I am very busy. Anyways he moved into my apartment after I quit my job to take care of my son and he began paying the rent. This was after I left him the first time to move here because he was an alcoholic, abusive, and really cruel. If I brought up something he was doing that bothered me, like “hey I think it would be helpful if you helped me clean up a little…” he would just insult me with personal insults. Well we worked on things, he was changing and drinking less, until a few months after he moved back in. It has progressively gotten worse. Someone hit me and totaled my car so now the only thing I personally owned is gone. I only had liability because I was paying for my car insurance personally with my savings. I asked if he could help me get a new car but he said it’s not his fault that I got in an accident. I don’t know how I am supposed to take our son to his appointments because I live in a place with no public transportation. Today I asked if he could help me clean because I am very overwhelmed and he did some more personal attacks. He said I smell really bad, I’m unemployed so I can just do all the cleaning, I am a loser who can’t keep a job, I do nothing all day, etc. When I told him that I felt like him keeping a truck that barely works that doesn’t even have a backseat is impractical, he told me I have no right to tell him about finances since I am jobless. He finally said he will get me a car but if I start being a “bitch” (which in his mind includes disagreeing with him or telling him how I feel about something) that he will take it away. He gets some control over me and suddenly he uses that against me. He threatens to stop paying the rent and make me homeless. I am thinking of just getting a job but I have little earning potential and with daycare and losing my medicaid, I will almost be making nothing. Until I graduate anyways. He told me I lost my last job because I smell nasty, and thats not even true. He said he is unhappy and he drinks because of me.

The school called me today and said she scratched two boys. When I picked her up and asked her what happened, she told me that one of the boys was fighting her over a piece of blank paper for taking notes. When she walked away another boy came over and threw her stuff on the ground. Btw not the first time her things have been thrown on the ground by another student. Then the principal messages me and says that this isn’t the first time this has happened and that they will be considering out of school suspension if the behavior continues. I wasn’t told about it happening before so how was I supposed to know and fix the issue? I told my daughter scratching isn’t okay and to tell the teacher next time. But how can they threaten suspension on a kindergartner without having the full story and how did they miss the first altercation she tried to walk away from?