u/lotrogamer1997

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About a week and a half ago my wife entered a month long mental health inpatient center in a srare about two thousand miles from our home. About a week in she had to be med-discharged and sent to a hospital. I booked tickets and flew out immediately when I heard after taking emergency leave (we are both military).

My emergency leave is up 3 days later and I need to return back home. Her condition is not life threatening and they are getting her in condition and stable to be released back to the mental health inpatient center, doctors think another couple of days. She was happy to see me when I came, and I really want to stay, but I have no more leave and we have 3 cats that I only gave barebone instructions to my friends about caring for.

I am sitting here at the airport very conflicted. I love her to bits and if she is still struggling I'll fly out on Friday to be back with her, but my leadership and pets need me to return home for the remaining 4 days of the workweek. I would never abandon her, and she said its alright and that she needs to figure everything out (her condition is mostly due to a mental block while eating). She knows I support her, but I can't help but feel like im abandoning her, despite the second she discharges she is back to the mental health center with minimum contact.

I wasn't questioning my decision until the nurse asked why I was leaving so soon and I had to defend myself, I really want to stay if it was a possibility. She made it seem like i was choosing to leave just to leave.

Feeling very conflicted, AITA?

About a month ago my wife stopped eating and started saying things like "I don't know if I can keep going", and other types of suicidal things. She has always been a bit touch and go on mental health, but she finally said she was never going to eat again, so I brought her into the hospital. She was in the psych ward for a week, and then (voluntarily) went to a follow-on 30-day inpatient center for her specific issues. The first two weeks are no-contact, so I had not heard from her in a week since she in-processed to the facility.

I got a call today that she had once again started to refuse to eat (she had been taking liquid meal shakes and electrolytes while at the psych ward and up until today), and that she was being taken to the ER to be medically evaluated, and then would be transferred back.

I'm just so lost. I don't know what to do without her, and the no-contact is destroying me. Has anyone else been in any kind of similar situation and come through? I'm just looking for some kind of hope really, as I personally am struggling to want to go on, especially if it will be without her.

Thank you

About a month ago now I had to take my wife (who is also AD) to the ER for a suicide attempt. She was taken to the inpatient psych ward, held for about two weeks, during of which I could go and see her and have visitor hours. About a week ago they discharged her and her command allowed the psychiatry team to send her to a month-long in-patient center for her specific diagnosis. The first two weeks are completely no contact, and I haven't spoken to her since she was admitted a week ago.

I'm looking for options on what I can do in order to seek my own help. I'm not suicidal or have any intention to harm myself, but I've been struggling incredibly hard with the entire situation. My flight and supervisor have been incredibly kind, and my flight chief allowed me to take leave pretty much immediately as the situation was developing. I've been in the office sporadically since it began, but my quality of work is terrible at the moment, I'm struggling to concentrate at all. I've developed plenty of terrible coping mechanisms like alcohol (never on work days though).

What are my options really? While my flight has been amazing, my shirt has dropped the ball, never reached out despite being aware of everything that has occurred.

Thanks for any help or options.