u/lotuspill

Messed up on the last post so here I am reposting it! 😅 But am I the only one who does not believe the ring was meant for Kiara, like at all? I’ve seen so many takes of people talking about the scene where JJ takes the ring from a shop he breaks into and how they think he was going to give it to Kis as a gift or as a proposal. However JJ wears jewelry in the show such as rings a lot so it could have easily been for himself and I don’t think he is the type of character to propose so easily. Also, the writers probably would have made a bigger focus on it or brought it up again if that was the intention. Not to mention I don’t think the writers would want to repeat the whole marriage thing after already doing that with John B and Sarah, and it just doesn’t make sense for JJ and Kiara to also get married when they apparently never even went on a date before or anything like that (until that one scene where they realize this).

My (18F) boyfriend (19M) the past month or so has been calling me naive and innocent quite a few times and I genuinely hate it. I cannot possibly understand why he says this. To him, he seems to view it as a positive or neutral description, however I find it negative and insulting.

I think it started because maybe his dad said it first so now it is stuck in his head, but he keeps saying it. The first time or two I was just kind of awkward and weirded out about it but didn’t say too much. Today I spotted him and my dad chatting and later asked him what they were talking about. He said they were talking about me and how I am so naive and innocent. I stayed pretty calm, but I made it clear that I view this very negatively and do not like it. I explained to him that my life and entire childhood has been full of trauma and hard or very embarrassing experiences. I have lost a lot in my life and it has truly hardened me in ways I can never fully abandon. The struggles I have faced however have shaped me as a person and given me a softer outlook on life. The cruelty I faced inspires me to go about my life in a kinder manner and makes me view life positively. Viewing life so positively does not mean I am naive or innocent, I am aware of life’s ups and downs no matter what.

I kept asking him what exactly he even meant by it but he just couldn’t quite explain it. He said that it is somewhat because I just “don’t know things.” However I find myself showing him how to do things such as basic cleaning tips and many other things because his parents divorced when he was young and I think him choosing to live with his dad meant he didn’t learn certain things that he should have. I am not saying he is instead naive by any means, just that I don’t think I am consistently ever “not knowing how to do things.”

So either way he meant it, I can’t see how it makes sense and find it insulting. The fact that he can’t sense that I do not like it and keeps saying it really angers me, however I suppose I should just communicate it a bit better by saying flat out not to say it again. It honestly really icks me out when he says it because it just feels so insulting and as if he doesn’t know me or my life very well, even though we have been dating for around 2 years now. I love him a lot and he is a kind hearted person, but stuff like this just really bugs me. 😩 Am I overreacting for feeling this way?

i’ve seen a lot of people talking about the scene where jj takes the ring from the shop he breaks into and how they think he was going to give it to kie as a gift or as a proposal. am i the only one who is pretty that was not the case? jj wears jewelry in the show such as rings a lot and i don’t think he is the type of character to propose so easily. also the writers probably would have made a bigger focus on it or brought it up again if that was the intention. not to mention i don’t think the writers would want to repeat the whole marriage thing after already doing that with john b and sarah