How do you deal with someone that responds positively to going out with you, but takes too long to reply?
I've known this girl for eight years. We've had pretty much no communication, but I was getting more curious. She asked me for help with something and offered me a beer whenever we had the chance to meet.
One day, we were talking through messages, and she brought up the beer idea again. I turned the beer into a one-on-one dinner, which she accepted and was available for on the exact day. She said she would be waiting for the next dinner.
One week later, I invited her for dinner again, and she accepted. It was her first time eating ramen actually...
So, the personal aspect is doing fine. However, she says she's not very social, and that is true. She is passive, doesn't take the lead, and I am the one who usually comes up with the ideas, and she goes with the flow.
I like her a lot, but my nervous system panics whenever she takes too long to reply to messages. She takes an average of three days, and it's not like she isn't using Instagram; she posts stories but doesn't reply. She says she hasn't seen them or forgets to answer... that doesn't seem like a good sign to me.
Is this normal for a very defensive/passive person, or am I just overthinking tons of things in my head, assuming she is slightly curious when she isn't? How do you stay sane and try to approach her at the same time without making her uncomfortable? I would like to keep trying but also not think about this every day.
It is also true that she said she likes to do some activities but doesn't want to go alone... so I guess if I do go, thats just a bonus for her and thats why she also accepts.