u/luvbibimbxp

I’m 23F, and my boyfriend is 25M. We’ve been together for almost 2½ years.
Our relationship has had a lot of ups and downs. Honestly, it feels like about 80% of it has been arguments and only 20% has been happy moments. Things were good at first, but he broke my trust several times in the past. Nothing physical happened, but it still affected me deeply. He says he’s changed, and I do see improvement, although I still struggle to fully trust him.
The biggest issue is with myself. I feel like I’ve become emotionally dependent on the relationship. I always want to do everything with him, and my mood depends almost entirely on how things are going between us. If we’re doing well, I’m happy. If we’re arguing or something feels off, it affects my whole day.
He’s much more independent and laid-back, which sometimes makes me feel even more attached and anxious.
I don’t like feeling this way. I want to have my own hobbies, focus on myself, and stop obsessing over the relationship, but I don’t know where to start.
**My question is:** What are some practical things I can do to become less emotionally dependent on my relationship and stop making it the center of my life? If you’ve been in a similar situation, what actually helped you?