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My pick would easily be septum. I don't know since when, for the very first facial piercing everyone recommends a septum. When I was figuring out which one to do on myself as the first one, my friend who already had like every imaginable piercing on their face also recommended a septum, because apparently it "suits everyone" and is rather easy to heal and step into the piercing area with it.

I'm not arguing with the second point and I can't judge how easy it is to heal and get used to since I don't have it myself, but what I don't think is true is that it suits everyone. I think it's flexible in a way that there are a lot of options for septum jewelry and you can even hide it easier than most other facial piercings, however I don't think it suits everyone.

I think I witnessed them becoming really popular and common in around 2020, when a lot of people started getting them and many people stopped at just this one piercing on their face. In my opinion they are actually very cute if they suit your features and don't take away the attention from them, especially if paired with other piercings that aren't in your nose. Since a septum is in the very center of your face I've noticed that if a person doesn't have some eye catching features, my attention immediately just goes to the septum and it kinda looks off.

If I had to name a piercing I think actually has the highest chances of suiting most people, it would be an eyebrow piercing or a nostril, even just by themselves they are cute and most likely add to your face rather than take away from it.

I am contemplating getting it right now but I just be staring at my face trying to figure out if it would actually look good and not create that illusion, though I already have an eyebrow, a nostril and vertical labret.

What are your thoughts?

Edit: now that I think about it, a septum actually became huge as a thing. Septum is literally a whole culture now lol and I think it's cool. Like it's one of the first associations when the topic of piercings is brought up around people who aren't very familiar with piercings or millennials/gen x.

But with people who are already into the whole pierced up theme I think it's one of the least often talked about piercings, it became kind of basic because of its popularity that no one glances an eye on it or has questions.

I've heard a lot and everywhere about how girls as kids had their hair cut short by parents either because they believed it would grow faster and better or because it was just easy to manage. I've had the complete opposite of that.

I've had my first EVER haircut at like 11-12. My mom just wouldn't ever cut my hair before I said I want to myself, because she thinks long hair boosts femininity and beauty and she really treasured the very light ends which were my very first hairs as a baby.

I genuinely started hating having them that long when at one point when I was like 8-9 they were literally to my knees and I watched my girl friends at school be able to do multiple different hair styles or just wear them down, while I only had two options - a ponytail or a braid. My hair was the first and mostly only thing people noticed about me or would complement. I've had random people come up to me and say "don't ever cut your hair okay" and plus what my mom was telling me about it for years to the point I was actually scared to cut it even though I wanted to. Ever since then I don't like extremely long hair (butt length and longer) for that same reason.

I don't think it's flattering, it doesn't bring any of your features, it doesn't suit everyone, it's hard to manage and tangles really easily and you have very few to none hairstyle options. But that's not about that.

Has anyone had a similar experience here?

Not talking about rape or sexual assault or anything like that of course. I am talking about why am I seeing 14-18 year olds doing grwms to SCHOOL with a huge belly sticking out their crop tops. I don't think it's normal, I don't think we should support it and I don't think we need to spread it for others to see and normalize it.

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Quick research says that the average age people have children is roughly 28 years old as of right now, but less than 100 years ago that average age was 18-21 years old. However still mostly in Africa the average age is 18-20 years old, and it is linked to cultural reasons and practices. That is directly connected to how developed a region is and people in more developed ones put their teenage - early adulthood years into education, career and settling down because it's needed, it's a priority and a need before having children currently.

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Teenage pregnancy in said higher developed regions is just irresponsible, it's dumb and it shows that your parents fucked up in giving you proper education about sex and you lack any common sense or credit for your actions.

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In absolute most cases it turns to be the parents job to provide and take care for their grandchildren while their children pursue education and a career, or the pregnant teen drops everything that's supposed to set them for a living to take care of their child with god knows what resources.

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The whole "mom that stood up/you didn't leave your baby and that's all that matters!💓" argument is simply bad. Simply loving your child is not gonna put food in its mouth. It's not gonna put a roof over it's head and it's not gonna guarantee it a good future.

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Why is everyone just allowed to have kids nowadays especially kids having kids. You wouldn't let even an 18 year old to adopt a kid given it's a long process and you are required to have a stable income, a home and an environment for a kid to be able to live in comfortably, then why are we letting literal kids have kids.

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It's not "close your legs" statement I'm doing here because it is absolutely normal to explore your sexuality as a teenager, however I don't think it's normal to start at 14-15 years old. My point is that you should take every precaution and be sure that you know what your options are in case of a teenage pregnancy. But anyway if that's what you wanna do at 16 with nothing to your name go ahead and do it, but we shouldn't support it or normalize it because that way we'll just end up with a poor uneducated society who's only goal is to pop kids out.

It's especially teenagers when they hit the age of like 14 and become overly aware of themselves and start actively exploring who they are which is completely normal and most of them outgrow certain beliefs or things later on. I surely did.

What I really don't like seeing is when people throw their mental diagnoses in your face first thing you meet them. Me personally it tells me nothing about them except for them being annoying and having no personality.

It's very different when let's say there's an account online and it's purpose is specifically talking, sharing and educating about a specific mental disorder, then there is totally a need to state it upfront, but on the other side of the table we have self diagnosed "autistic" 14 year olds who put emojis all over it in their bio.

It's good that psychology and psychiatry are getting better and better and we have more access to proper help now, but in my opinion it is still rather a private information that you don't have to share with everyone, like no one is proudly stating out loud that they have hemorrhoids.

And explanations like "so you understand their behavior upfront" don't make it clearer for me because I personally would rather have a person I just met get to know me without my diagnoses or things like that that have certain stereotypes around them and might immediately affect their opinion about me. And additionally for me it kinda sounds like covering up your behavior with a diagnosis, but I might be wrong.

If anyone could explain how it's beneficial I would gladly listen.

First and foremost in no way am I talking about purposefully bullying someone, making harmful assumptions and jokes and limiting them in rights based on the fact of a disability.

I am talking about such a thing called behavioral immune system, which is a subconscious reaction of your brain to possible health concerns and dangers in your immediate environment. While called "ableism" by our woke progressive folks it is simply an evolutionary and cognitive mechanism that contributed to our survival and development.

As of today it shows up when for example you don't want to eat with the same spoon someone else used, you avoid helping sick people even if it's not contagious, and when you avoid and feel uncomfortable around severely disabled people that don't act like you. It's not always logical because your brain doesn't subconsciously recognize whether you are actually in danger, it just receives certain signals and does it's best to protect you.

I think the term ableism in itself is being thrown around too much sometimes. In my opinion, simply viewing severely disabled people differently than healthy and abled ones is not hateful. They are different. And they should fully have the same rights and receive needed help and resources.

Also very heavily depending on the type of disability, a person with a rather common mental health diagnosis is not the same as a person with a disability that directly affects their intelligence and cognitive abilities.

Not talking about high functioning autism or most mental illnesses that do not affect a person's intelligence and communication abilities. I'm talking about cerebral palsy, down syndrome, autism when a person is non verbal and aggressive etc etc.

I don't get why we're trying so hard to make all spaces welcoming for people with severe disabilities that directly affect their intelligence. They are "special needs" for a reason, and they should be provided with such. Most places like average schools, hobby clubs, camps, cinemas, theatres and so on cannot provide that and they shouldn't have to.

That's the exact reason there are multiple schools and entertainment places specifically for special needs children. I hate when parents are irresponsible and blindfolded enough to try to shove their severely disabled child into the same spaces that healthy and abled children attend, usually by believing that they need socialization.

This scenario might only do more harm to the disabled child through bullying and the fact that the space is not accommodating to them, and also to other children who are then obligated to tolerate certain behavior from the disabled child because "well he's disabled he can't help it".

Not all teachers or coaches are trained to deal with disabled people, not all spaces can tolerate your disabled child having a meltdown, stimming loudly or needing special assistance, and certainly not all kids if any at all know how or want to deal with them.

From personal experience when I was at a hobby club there was a 20yr old with cerebral palsy and he throughout the years multiple times tried to sexually harass underage girls including me. All our teacher said when we built enough courage to ask for help is that he's a teenager and it's hormones.

Looking back at it I don't want any child to experience that. And I'm not blaming him specifically, I'm blaming adults for closing their eyes on clear differences that HAVE to be treated differently and letting children be in danger and uncomfortable all by trying to be so progressive and supportive.

All people are equal in rights, but not all people are equal in needs and abilities, and it's wrong not recognizing that.

I genuinely don't understand how people even become a part of vegan community when a lot of it is just hateful towards people who eat meat.

"You can't love animals and eat meat" guess what veganism doesn't stop at just not eating meat. So self-proclaimed vegans use pretty much as much animal derived materials and byproducts on a daily basis as a meat-eating person, but think of themselves above anyone else.

Transportation and automotive, household and industrial goods, makeup and beauty products, clothes, textiles and accessories, electronics, medicine, all of these use some sort of animal derived materials more or less. Some of these are irreplaceable as for now. So even if you unknowingly use it, that's still shame on you if you scream so loudly of your ideology.

I have nothing against vegans as long as they are being respectful towards others. If they want more people to join their community and change things worldwide, wouldn't it be the best way to do it by being respectful and spreading truthful information, how we can impact the world instead of relying just on right or wrong morals?