Just got a zve10 for a good deal want to get my first lens that I can use in the future along with other lenses I’d buy in the future what would be a better option found good deals on both lenses with the sigma being a bit more than the Sony fe
Me and my gf started speaking 7 months ago in Nov 2025, I’ve been close friends with these two girls since 2022-23 but I’ve known one since I was a child as our family’s are close and known the other since 2019. We all got closer when we found out we were shared mutual friends and have always been in around the same people but from the start it’s been strictly platonic and nothing has ever happened between me or either of them. So she had this one guy friend that used to talk to but it didn’t work out which already made me uncomfortable but I was willing to accept, they became friends after that and have been friend ever since when she was in secondary school (high school) and she tells me they’ve been platonic ever since they stopped talking they’ve also been there for each other at times of need.
Now since we’ve been together things have happened to between them. For example I found her saying things like “I love you” and calling him “baby” also little things like her updating him on what she’s doing and him updating her on holiday which was something that I wanted from her but she told me she doesn’t do them sort of things. She also sent him bikini pictures which she insists she just sent them to all her friends girls included. He also acts quiet jealous and becomes cold when he talks to her whenever he knows I’m with her, their friendship is quite toxic and they argue a lot when I’m with her amongst other things. Other things that’s made me uncomfortable is that he complained one time to her about me being posted to her main story and him not which seemed like jealousy to me. He also complained that when they hang out she’s on her phone too much talking to me and that when I’m with her she better give him the same energy and talk to him. After that situation I was ready to leave but she promised to cut him off. She ended up not doing so and explained all the complications that come with doing so and I stayed and understood but wanted to set some boundaries. The boundaries were set and she saw him less but things got worse and I found out she was saying things like I love you I even ended up seeing a video of her with her ass out and him playing with it. She chalked it up to them two playing around and trolling her sister who was there to make her feel uncomfortable and that she wasn’t thinking in the moment so again I was ready to end things a leave again. She then promised again to cut him off fully but took a little time with it. Eventually she came round and did it and was obviously hurt about it because he was a close friend she valued but told me she values our relationship more so she understood it had to be done.
Come to present day she’s now asking me to cut off my friends because she says it’s not fair that she had to do it but I don’t and she doesn’t like the fact I’m friends with girls. I’ve tried explaining my side being like I’ve never done anything to make you not trust me and betray you so to me what your asking me is different to what I had asked of you but now she’s saying I’m choosing them over her. I asked her what is it that you don’t like about me being friends with them and it’s not that she doesn’t trust me around them or them around me she said it’s simply she doesn’t fuck with me being friends with girls and that she doesn’t think any other girl would too. I have never shown any infidelity especially with my friends and she’s even said in the past she’s not even worried about my loyalty. I’m not claiming to be perfect I’m far from it a lot of times I have let my emotions get to me about things like reply times and being left on delivered for hours but these to me are small things that can easily be sorted but have just been a reoccurring problem in the past. I’m also not the best at dealing with her mood at times and she thinks I just don’t understand how she feels or that I don’t care but I do and I just get confused because sometimes I try things to comfort her and it works but the next time it doesn’t to be honest sometimes it feels like I’m going through a mine field trying to figure out what to say and I end up going silent which she takes as me not caring enough. I have tried to reason with her and set boundaries with my friends but she just won’t have it and insists that I’m choosing them over her. Forgot to mention earlier that we are sort of long distance she lives in Ireland and I live in London it about an hour and a half flight and every time I get 3 or more days off from work I go and see her even if my friends are asking to hang out wether it be girls or boys if I have the time I always choose to spend it with her. Since we’ve started talking I’ve also started to limit the time I see them and I barely talk to any of my friends especially the two girls, I can count on one hand how many times I’ve gone out to see them since the year started.
She wants me to cut them off so she feels chosen I can see she’s growing resentment towards me because she thinks I wouldn’t do anything for her but I try explaining I would within reason but that makes her feel like I’m disregarding her feelings which I can also understand. If anything happened between me and my friends I would 100% cut them off but I know nothing has and nothing ever will our friendship is just not like that.
I need advice on how to manage this situation and if cutting them off would be the right decision because it’s getting to a point where we’re constantly arguing about it and everyday things are getting worse I’m actually open to just doing it atp so both of our hurt can stop. If you have any suggestions on other solutions I’d like to hear it:)