u/maggieknowles

I’m posting because I genuinely don’t know where else to turn, and I’m hoping to hear from Christians who have experienced something similar.

My husband recently came out to me as transgender. He believes that he is a woman, and he still considers himself a Christian. He loves God and says that his faith is still very important to him.

I love my husband deeply, and I don’t want this post to come across as me attacking or judging him. I’m trying to understand something that I honestly cannot wrap my head around right now.

We are both Christians, and I was raised to believe that God created us male and female and that our biological sex is part of His design. Because of that, I’m struggling with the idea that someone can believe they are transgender while also believing that God created them and that they are following Christ.

For me personally, right now, those two things feel like they cannot coexist. I realize that may sound harsh, but I’m being honest about where my understanding is at this moment. I’m not trying to make a final judgment about my husband or anyone else. I’m trying to understand.

I have so many questions.

How do transgender Christians reconcile their identity with Scripture?

How do you understand passages about God creating us male and female?

If you believe that being transgender is compatible with Christianity, what changed or helped you understand the Bible differently?

And for Christians who have had a spouse come out as transgender, how did you process that? How did you reconcile your love for your spouse, your marriage, and your understanding of God’s design?

I’m also grieving. I feel like the future I thought we were going to have has suddenly become uncertain, and I’m scared. I love my husband, but I’m struggling with what this means for our marriage and for my own faith.

I’m not looking for people to tell me that my husband is evil or that he’s going to hell. I’m also not looking for people to tell me to blindly accept something I’m not currently able to understand.

I genuinely want to hear thoughtful Christian perspectives from people who have wrestled with this seriously.

If you’ve been in my position—or if you are a transgender Christian and can explain how you reconcile these things—I would really appreciate hearing your perspective.

Please be kind. I’m asking because I’m struggling, not because I want to hurt anyone. Thank you.

I’m posting because I genuinely don’t know where else to turn, and I’m hoping to hear from Christians who have experienced something similar.

My husband recently came out to me as transgender. He believes that he is a woman, and he still considers himself a Christian. He loves God and says that his faith is still very important to him.

I love my husband deeply, and I don’t want this post to come across as me attacking or judging him. I’m trying to understand something that I honestly cannot wrap my head around right now.

We are both Christians, and I was raised to believe that God created us male and female and that our biological sex is part of His design. Because of that, I’m struggling with the idea that someone can believe they are transgender while also believing that God created them and that they are following Christ.

For me personally, right now, those two things feel like they cannot coexist. I realize that may sound harsh, but I’m being honest about where my understanding is at this moment. I’m not trying to make a final judgment about my husband or anyone else. I’m trying to understand.

I have so many questions.

How do transgender Christians reconcile their identity with Scripture?

How do you understand passages about God creating us male and female?

If you believe that being transgender is compatible with Christianity, what changed or helped you understand the Bible differently?

And for Christians who have had a spouse come out as transgender, how did you process that? How did you reconcile your love for your spouse, your marriage, and your understanding of God’s design?

I’m also grieving. I feel like the future I thought we were going to have has suddenly become uncertain, and I’m scared. I love my husband, but I’m struggling with what this means for our marriage and for my own faith.

I’m not looking for people to tell me that my husband is evil or that he’s going to hell. I’m also not looking for people to tell me to blindly accept something I’m not currently able to understand.

I genuinely want to hear thoughtful Christian perspectives from people who have wrestled with this seriously.

If you’ve been in my position—or if you are a transgender Christian and can explain how you reconcile these things—I would really appreciate hearing your perspective.

Please be kind. I’m asking because I’m struggling, not because I want to hurt anyone. Thank you.